Yeah, well, you're missing the point that she walks the 3 minutes to the bus every day. So I felt, in my exhausted 2-hours-of-sleep state, "Why should today be any different?" BTW, I have to take my kid to school on the city bus tomorrow (which I don't mind) because my wife will have the car for work. MIL will be plopped inside with her car in the driveway. Guess who doesn't feel he's owed a lift?It was a ****ty move not to give her a ride to the bus.
Let me tell you something about dealing with asses,if you don’t rise above it and actually drop down to their level that makes you an ass as well.Im certain your wife is fed up dealing with both of you but you sound like a child with your complaining.
You may have some genuine points but come on dude,you have to carry presents up the stairs?,that’s not such a big deal in reality.
If you really want to meet a mother in law from hell I’ll introduce you to mine.
OK, re-reading this today, yes, complaining about lugging gifts up the stairs seems silly. But you all don't get the big picture. It's a constant presence, a constant taking-over. Christmas Eve, wife and I arrived home from visiting my family expecting to just put our child to bed and have a nice Xmas eve, being basically done. MIL brought my wife (who'd been up since 3am for work) close to tears by insisting she come down and help wrap, even though she'd wrapped tons of gifts for her mother earlier in the week without being asked to.Here's a few:
She didn't give you a father's day card until after midnight. You're not her father, are you?
You have to lug gifts upstairs? I suppose you mean gifts that she purchased for you and your family. How rude of her to expect you to carry them. I suppose if she gave you a winning lottery ticket you would complain that you now had to go collect the winnings.
She wants you to wait to open them until she is present? What a jerk! How dare she want to be part of things? She should just buy the presents and get lost.
She never says your kid looks like you? Well, maybe she doesn't think she does. I guess she should just tell you what you want to hear.
I don't generally like to use the term "man up" but it really does apply here. Why do you need her to thank you for shoveling the driveway? Doesn't sound like she has a car, so who did you actually shovel it for?
If you have such a problem with your mother in law doing her laundry when she does, tell her to do it another time. If you didn't want to drive her somewhere, tell her so and take your wife out of the loop.
Are you afraid of your MIL? She may never respect you, but she surely won't if you keep hiding behind your wife. Your wife does not want to confront her mother and quite possibly does not agree with you that she is such a big problem. Handle it yourself. If your wife becomes angry with you for doing so, at least you will know your position in the hierarchy.
Thanks so much for your help, Zookeeper.More whining but no action? How's that working out for you?
You sure like being the victim...
We are paying our own way. When did I state otherwise? There are two apartments. We pay our rent, she pays hers.Move.
It really is that simple.
But you just can't stand the idea of actually having to pay your own way, can you?
Or did your wife say she won't move with you?
Do you expect people here to help you learn to cope with your mother in law living downstairs? Unlikely. They will tell you to go live somewhere else. Get some distance.
They were right when they said moving in above her mother would destroy your life.
Carry on. Complaining to your wife is working great. Not sure why you posted here in the first place. You seen to have a good handle on things.Thanks so much for your help, Zookeeper.
The whole thing's blown over anyway. She probably realized she was being petty and calmed down.
Oh, and it was hard to "take action" today when wife works first half of day, I work second half of day, and MIL works ALL day.
We don't all have all day to troll.