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So far I have "liked" everything on this thread.
WH said that it was my fault that he became 'emotionally connected' to OW. For her part, OW was always/always 'flattering' WH, and she had even made 'flattering' comments to me on occasions ... for example "You are so beautiful and young looking - you look like you are in your 20s" ... YEAH RIGHT!! (OW made this comment when I was 63 !! how ridiculous is that .... )
WH just couldn't withstand such flattery ... with the end result that he is now desperately in love with OW.
And he still says that it is my fault ...
Reading this thread has made me feel much better ... it is ALWAYS good to know what others are enduring ... it always helps to be able to identify with others on TAM/CWI.
THANK YOU everyone for making your comments.
I have finally realised that WH has had too much influence over me over the past few years. But now, I feel I am getting stronger each day, and the 'plunging' moods aren't as prevalent, though they still come from nowhere some days.
Of course I am at fault in some respects, but it was mainly through working long hours, and some stress at work (ie bullying in the workplace). Added to that, I could sense a distance between WH and me - but whenever I asked him whether we were "ok", he would just brush it off, say that all was fine, and not to ask that question again.
Most of my strength is coming from TAM/CWI.
WH said that it was my fault that he became 'emotionally connected' to OW. For her part, OW was always/always 'flattering' WH, and she had even made 'flattering' comments to me on occasions ... for example "You are so beautiful and young looking - you look like you are in your 20s" ... YEAH RIGHT!! (OW made this comment when I was 63 !! how ridiculous is that .... )
WH just couldn't withstand such flattery ... with the end result that he is now desperately in love with OW.
And he still says that it is my fault ...
Reading this thread has made me feel much better ... it is ALWAYS good to know what others are enduring ... it always helps to be able to identify with others on TAM/CWI.
THANK YOU everyone for making your comments.
I have finally realised that WH has had too much influence over me over the past few years. But now, I feel I am getting stronger each day, and the 'plunging' moods aren't as prevalent, though they still come from nowhere some days.
Of course I am at fault in some respects, but it was mainly through working long hours, and some stress at work (ie bullying in the workplace). Added to that, I could sense a distance between WH and me - but whenever I asked him whether we were "ok", he would just brush it off, say that all was fine, and not to ask that question again.
Most of my strength is coming from TAM/CWI.