If you had acted like you enjoy your work but not bothered with money and she doesn't a financially irresponsible man , you can't blame her for not warming up to you. She may not be a gold digger but who just want a financially responsible man.Glad that you appreciate that quality in a man TooNice. It's frustrating to find someone like you in my city. Reminds me of this lady I added as a friend on FB, we got along fine but me not being financially motivated was a dealbreaker for her, even though I made it clear I enjoy what I do, but after adding me on facebook and finding out I'm owner/MD of my own hospitality chain she wanted to date again... NO THANKS!
*sigh*
I've done these very things as youI do over analyze everything!!
Working on mindful meditation
EDIT: Which is an indication that I should totally END things with him... I am investing myself too much. FFS! I even unfriended him from FB....
I was soooo close to ending things, but then he called me and is acting normal again... I want to keep having fun!
I often run, when the first sign of something being off ...appears. It's a terrible way to go through dating, by making men climb walls that just get taller every day. I'd enjoy this time with him, and if he truly gives you a reason to question, then question. But, don't make up things in your head because you're scared. This is a time to break out of your comfort zone. I may have broken off my engagement in part due to fear...but I don't regret it, mainly because we weren't right for each other, I've come to learn. But, now I'm dating someone and again, those fears are creeping back...and the desire to stop and run is coming back into my head. I'm not going to run though, and neither are you! We owe it to ourselves to stop acting like this, and stop worrying that someone is going to hurt us, if we get too close. 
She warmed up to me only after adding me on FB and finding out my role so no thanks! Besides the impression I paint is that of non-material man who is responsible for his finances and daughter, only thing I hide is my title and certain responsibilities that are a give away.If you had acted like you enjoy your work but not bothered with money and she doesn't a financially irresponsible man , you can't blame her for not warming up to you. She may not be a gold digger but who just want a financially responsible man.
After my own experience, a man who is financially not stable or responsible is a deal breaker. And I am no gold digger.
I suppose you can tell the difference.
This it totally normal behavior for some men including myself. I know that I'm not always in the mood to talk, socialize, or respond to texts (especially with women that aren't at girlfriend status yet), and women could easily overanalyze that as being about them when it just isn't. Two days ago I got a text from a woman that I totally ignored simply because I was pissed off that my kids came to me overtired (yet again) and super grumpy. The XWW can't seem to understand that kids need bedtimes to function properly, and after dealing with that situation I'm not very chatty with anyone. Fortunately, the woman that texted me understood. But if she didn't, then no biggie.Calling out all the angels... jk
However, I do have a question. I have not exactly encountered this before.
So since Sunday and yesterday, the hot guy was not receptive. His texting seemed cold. So I did not follow up at all.
This morning, he is back to normal? What gives? I never did have the conversation with him regarding "moving too fast"
So question is: Why do some men act detached, then back to normal?
Then why not just respond and say, "I'm not in the best mood right now, so let's catch up later"? This is what causes women to overanalyze and it makes us crazy. If you're not in the mood to talk, just tell us, because otherwise we're going to think it's something much, much worse. Like you're busy fvcking another woman.This it totally normal behavior for some men including myself. I know that I'm not always in the mood to talk, socialize, or respond to texts (especially with women that aren't at girlfriend status yet), and women could easily overanalyze that as being about them when it just isn't. Two days ago I got a text from a woman that I totally ignored simply because I was pissed off that my kids came to me overtired (yet again) and super grumpy. The XWW can't seem to understand that kids need bedtimes to function properly, and after dealing with that situation I'm not very chatty with anyone. Fortunately, the woman that texted me understood. But if she didn't, then no biggie.
Thanks FIP - That's an excellent suggestion and one I'd do for a girlfriend. But if she's not at girlfriend status then does it matter what else I'm doing with my time and should I have to explain it to her? If one of my buddies texts me and I don't respond, he'll just figure I'm busy and it's not a big deal. I've also always figured that the early part of dating is when you set up the relationship rules and boundaries. If I have a very busy life and don't want to be at someone's beck and call then early on I establish that I don't work that way by not being readily available. Hmmm, maybe this is something I need to improve on and can handle better.Then why not just respond and say, "I'm not in the best mood right now, so let's catch up later"? This is what causes women to overanalyze and it makes us crazy. If you're not in the mood to talk, just tell us, because otherwise we're going to think it's something much, much worse. Like you're busy fvcking another woman.
See what I did there?
Communication is key, people.
Put that way, it sounds like you're playing games.Thanks FIP - That's an excellent suggestion and one I'd do for a girlfriend. But if she's not at girlfriend status then does it matter what else I'm doing with my time and should I have to explain it to her? If one of my buddies texts me and I don't respond, he'll just figure I'm busy and it's not a big deal. I've also always figured that the early part of dating is when you set up the relationship rules and boundaries. If I have a very busy life and don't want to be at someone's beck and call then early on I establish that I don't work that way by not being readily available. Hmmm, maybe this is something I need to improve on and can handle better.
Well, even though I normally say that texts can't be expected to be responded to immediately all the time, past the 24 hour mark is... a rather clear sign they aren't interested.Put that way, it sounds like you're playing games.
Women are looking for men who treat them with respect. "Ignoring" my text completely for a day or more is flat out rude. It takes what, 10 seconds to send a text? We get it. You have a life, a life which doesn't revolve around a brand new person you just started dating. But you can't spare even 10 seconds to text to say now isn't a good time?
That says to me, this guy doesn't really care if he impresses me, and this guy doesn't respect me enough to respond in a timely fashion. He's either putting in the bare minimum so that I'll fvck him, or he doesn't have time/space for another person in his life.
I'd be saying "Next!" pretty damn quick.
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I suppose it really depends on 1) what type of woman you want to attract, and 2) what stage the relationship is in.FIP - I love hearing your perspective, although it is about polar opposite of mine.
I always treat women with respect by being honest about my intentions, so they know what my level of commitment is. I don't try hard to impress women when I date them. I'm just myself and they can like me or not. If they like me and want to spend time with me in the way I'm comfortable with then great, but if not then we aren't a good match and I'll just move to the next one. It's not playing games, just a different way of approaching new relationships than what you subscribe to.
While handling communication my way might be a strike against me, it is true to my personality and I'm secure with that. I don't have a background in psychology but if you subscribe to Esther Perel's (author of mating in captivity) line of thinking, not having a high level of commitment will actually attract women rather than drive them off. It really doesn't make sense to me.
I think this is good advice. The police (hopefully) will know what the best course of action is.@ne9907 you should call the police and get some general information since the laws in each state are different. Depending on what criminal history he has, he might not pass a background check already. I'm fully supportive of people's rights to legally own firearms but if there is a legitimate reason like mental illness, drug use, history of violence, etc. that they shouldn't have them then you have an absolute obligation to do something.
Many men are boys looking for a new mummy, just as many girls are looking for their sugar daddies. Both sicken me, as I've been working and supporting myself since I was 12.It appalls me when younger men are looking for cougars for financially stability or for a roof over them.
I look young for my age but I would never play the cougar role.
I am working my azz off feeding my boys. N having paid debts for my ex for that long, i will never pay a dime for another man, ever. I think a man should pay for his woman. Ok. I am traditional. I know.
I called the gun store where brother is purchasing gun. I spoke with the manager, since the owner was not there today. The owner is supposed to call me tomorrow.@ne9907 you should call the police and get some general information since the laws in each state are different. Depending on what criminal history he has, he might not pass a background check already. I'm fully supportive of people's rights to legally own firearms but if there is a legitimate reason like mental illness, drug use, history of violence, etc. that they shouldn't have them then you have an absolute obligation to do something.
