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I'm thinking that would be...attention!

BOOM! Love attention from the ladies.


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No, because you'd probably like that. It would give you something else to complain about. "OMG, some woman flogged me!! Women are such b!tches!!"

I would like that.


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You laughin' at me? NOT COOL.

TBH I thought this thread was getting far too serious, and somber for that matter.

Sheesh someone needs to lighten the mood in this place.

/giggle

 

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Heh, once I am ready I am going to use Vanguard or WoW as a dating site!!! Massive Multiplayer Online role playing games and finding dates=WIN WIN!

 

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It worked for my ex wife. I hear they're keepers!

Sorry daddio.... this sort of made me smile.
Hope you are much happier!!

 

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And I haven't even begun to describe the red flags. The damsels in distress and the emotional bullies. The "Too good to be true from the start" women. There's a reason these people have to resort to online dating. Other than divorce or something sad, the never married crowd you meet there can be really wacko.

What classifies a woman as an emotional bully?

I have been known to be obsessive and a bit crazy. Just don't want to be a bully

 

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Obsessive and crazy? Are you trying to say fairly normal?:rofl:

An emotional bully in a relationship is someone who constantly berates their partner and tears down their self esteem to make themselves feel better.They don't feel good and they can't stand to see their partner happy, so they put a stop to it and slowly but surely keep them dependent on their appraisal by making sure nothing they do is ever good enough.

And there's too types, the aggressive and the passive aggressive. The aggressive is pretty much psychical without being physical. They yell and scream and hit with their words. The passive aggressive is harder to spot but they use more guilt tripping tactics to make their partners feel as bad as possible and get their way. My ex wife was like the second one. Can't tell you how bad she used to make me feel about being myself, and she could make herself cry on cue.

Also, I forgot to mention the way you can usually spot these people is by how their partner acts. If you're with an aggressive emotionally bully you're going to be a lot more fearful and beat yourself up for not doing things their way before they get upset, and if you're with a passive aggressive emotional bully you're going to spend all your time trying to make them happy or think of ways to make them happy.

Does that sound like you?

No but I think the demise of a relationship is 50/50. Maybe my ex would say I am one because he said I changes him for the worse.
I personally feel that my ex was a bit passive aggressive bully as I was always doing everything possible to make him happy. Even now I get bouts of guilt for not loving him enough and want my needs meet.
Oh one more thing. I am still very much in the rollercoaster so many of my thoughts are incomprehensive. I am learning to think independently and it is a lot of work.

Thanks

 

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I meant to put a family face at the end of "thanks" but apparently my phone doesn't like happy faces!


Let's see if that worked

 

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I ate Chinese food tonight. My fortune cookie read "you will receive an unexpected gift from an acquaintance."
Perhaps the gift was your statement "you are going to think you are crazy, and that is because you are acting like he wanted you to act."

I have felt like I am crazy.
Thank you again.

 

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Some women look all around for ego gratification, they need to have male attention to feel valid as a human

I have been so guilty of this for the past few months. I am getting better each day, though.

 

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update: So, just to share and not to gloat.....seriously.......I had porn star level sex last night. Abs burning...(thanks crossfit)...sweaty...screaming....orgasms a plenty....porn star level sex.

And, no, never had that when married. In fact, my ex struggled to even orgasm. Many good things can come from divorce, yes they can........:smthumbup:

Oh my..... I am so jealous.... better hit the gym haha~

Awesome for you!!!

 

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I was in Vegas in Oct and Aug. Did I miss a meetup...

Oh...
I am planning a trip to Vegas!! I love it!

 

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What makes it all worth it? What makes it worth while standing in line the next day for coffee wearing the same clothes you had on last night

haha
I call it "the walk of shame"

 

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The "walk of shame" is something different. That's when you walk home from the bar holding your heels in one hand because you're still too drunk to balance and no one picked you. Or it could be when you settled and went home with one of the "last call guys" and have to walk home trying to forget about what you did. You know, shameful.

If the sex was really good and you picked a winner, he's not letting you walk home by yourself. He'll either give you cab fare, give you a ride, or let you sleep over and then leave when you're sober enough in the morning. It's not even a walk of shame at that point, it's a dress rehearsal for what you're going to tell your friends about that one guy you didn't do anything with.

hmmm what shows how much I know. Is there a place to take dating 101??

 

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I offer a course through Craig's List.:smthumbup:

Seriously, I could compile a list of really good dating books and email you a few. There's some written by men for other men that are pretty good, a little misogynistic, but they do explain some things that others do not. The best IMHO are the books on reconciliation and divorce for understanding why not to chase when dating, and then there are some written by women that are pretty good at explaining how to keep yourself distant while interviewing these men.

But I can teach you how to decode pretty easily. There's not a whole lot of new things I hear... I mean you'd be surprised by the same phrases that always seem to pop up. And then it's pretty much a basic understanding on NLP, lie detection, and body language skills. If a guy's lying to you he's going to have tells.

I sounds very interesting but it sort of will take the fun and craziness of it all!
Haha, I will keep your offer in mind and will annotate it in my journal just in case I ever need it.
I watched the movie "He is just not that into you" and I think I am pretty much set

I am kidding, but at the moment I am good!
Thanks!

 

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I loved that movie! I so wanted the needy redhead! Love redheads btw.

In all honesty knowing this stuff does take some of the craziness out of it, but it's good to familiarize yourself with some of the unwritten rules so when you need it you can just remember. It also helps to know all the red flags before you go on a date and can avoid dating crazy before it's too late.

I have a friend who is always stating how she dates to get married... I think I will be the opposite. I will date to have fun, and if I ever make a online profile one of my statements will be
"I just want a free meal" haha.

Bring on the craziness, I am ready for good laughter!

 

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Ob btw if a man asks me on a date, I expect him to pay for dinner. Is that being entitled? I don't think so because if I were to ask someone on a date, I would pay for dinner.

 

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Oh I forgot... Even though I looked like complete crap for being rode hard and put up wet, I still managed to get some Harvard girl's phone number on the train.Whoo!:rofl:

Men in uniform are irresistible. Before I got married, when I was in the army I dated this guy. He never look more sexy than when he had his cook whites on. Yeah he was a cook. But he looked so delicious

 

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Ahh...
I want to go to England and speak with a British accent. I wanna go to a pub (pub yes?) Get spool drunk that I am asking strangers for a ride to Hogwarts..

 

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i work less than 10 mins from there....
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@bandit. I would so totally jump at this hint...

 

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Don't ask me how I found this, but I just had to share this dating profile with you guys...

******* | Blood4theBloodG / 29 / M / Manchester, New Hampshire

Haha, at first I thought "is he for real?"

But then I realized he is for real.


BLOOD FOR THE BLOOD GOD!
SKULLS FOR THE SKULL THRONE!!
Is the war cry for an Warhammer Online, an online role paying game ( I had to google that).

I bet there are some women who will be into that. I am into online role playing games, but actually going on a date with someone who does not have individual thoughts but those of a game is actually scary!!


It was a fun read! Keep 'em coming!

oh Btw, is ******* free???

 

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=Nsweet;5652201]You know Hogwarts is REAL. It's just hard to find. It's like having sex for the first time.... The entrance is there, you just have to believe hard enough and hit it at the right angle.

Haha... well there is still hope for my owl then.

And if that's not bad enough..... I also have a joke about the Hat of Sorting and men's foreskins. Except it calls out the brand of soap he washes with.:rofl:[/

Ahem*sorting hat* .... do tell the joke! or did you reveal the punchline?