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Just curious, how many men or women use the silent treatment on their spouse instead of talking through issues? I am starting to believe that a person cannot really love another when they let it go on for so long.
Here is my current situation as an example... I have been completely ignored now for 22 days. Ignored = not a hello, not even a glance in my direction in the house, going to a room and locking himself in for any time he is in the house with me. All of this stemming from an accusation of me cheating on my H after spending the day with my family and spending the night there, and he knew exactly where I was and I even called him to tell him. I was interrogated as soon as I came home and he even implied that my family was helping me keep this "affair" from him. Trust me, there is no other man nor has there ever been, nor is there any interest... why would i want to deal with another man when i have to deal with this BS? I feel as if he is fabricating an issue to cause us to split up so he can put all the blame on me so he will not have to take any responsibility for any of this.
I will admit, I am guilty of getting upset at the accusation and giving a bit of the silent treatment myself for a couple of days while waiting for an apology or at the very least some rational civility to talk it out. the apology was never given (surprise), same as any other time he was wrong and knew it.
he makes every disagreement into a contest, he never loses either. funny enough, i found a book that he was reading titled "How to win every argument". i found that to be very telling, more so than i thought i knew about him. i feel like i am in a no-win situation because he isn't interested in talking things out, just trying to control the situation by ignoring me, as if to say I am not worth the effort.
Here is my current situation as an example... I have been completely ignored now for 22 days. Ignored = not a hello, not even a glance in my direction in the house, going to a room and locking himself in for any time he is in the house with me. All of this stemming from an accusation of me cheating on my H after spending the day with my family and spending the night there, and he knew exactly where I was and I even called him to tell him. I was interrogated as soon as I came home and he even implied that my family was helping me keep this "affair" from him. Trust me, there is no other man nor has there ever been, nor is there any interest... why would i want to deal with another man when i have to deal with this BS? I feel as if he is fabricating an issue to cause us to split up so he can put all the blame on me so he will not have to take any responsibility for any of this.
I will admit, I am guilty of getting upset at the accusation and giving a bit of the silent treatment myself for a couple of days while waiting for an apology or at the very least some rational civility to talk it out. the apology was never given (surprise), same as any other time he was wrong and knew it.
he makes every disagreement into a contest, he never loses either. funny enough, i found a book that he was reading titled "How to win every argument". i found that to be very telling, more so than i thought i knew about him. i feel like i am in a no-win situation because he isn't interested in talking things out, just trying to control the situation by ignoring me, as if to say I am not worth the effort.