I would also like to point out, that sex is NOT simply emotional for me -- my drive for sex is mostly based on a physical NEED for sexual release. I want to share it with someone in an emotional way, but my high drive is physically based - my body wants an orgasm (or several). So I have almost never expressed my sexuality in any way tied to my self-esteem. The fact that my husband doesn't want me hurts, but I know it's HIS problem, NOT mine -- we don't fit, we don't match, and he doesn't care enough to want to meet my needs for that. That's also HIS issue, from within HIM.I boldedthe two parts of this response where I can see clearly how your self esteem and sexuality are directly tied in a way that makes you contradict yourself.
Why on earth would you have a High Desire sexually for someone you believe that does not care about you? Would you think that perhaps you come across as needy? Is a needy person sexually desirable in your opinion? Does a needy person generally have a high degree of self confidence?