[thatbpguy]

I suppose you can pack and just go. Leave her the house, her lover... file for divorce...

Seems to me this is being made out to be a lot more complex than it needs to be. All this touchy-feely legal garbage. I actually think that's a large part of the problem- someone (like your father was going to do) needs to grow a pair, take the bull by he horn(s) and act.

[sigh] The pu$$yfication of the world.

 

[EleGirl]

That can be a good idea. But she won't want to go. She's probably itching to see him

It's easy.. her parents pick her up and they take her to their house.

Talk to her father. I'm sure he will not want her around the OM.

Get a VAR now. You do not have time to wait for mail order.

Unless you live in the middle of nowhere there are stores around you that sell them.

Or.... just make sure you can record on your cell and download the recordings to a safe place.

Do not be around her without some recording device turned on.

 

[EleGirl]

So, the recorded conversation between him, I and my father in law is a proof then. I will keep recording everything. Lost my wife, I won't lose my house too.
I'm getting dressed to pick her up. Wish me luck, it's almost like I'm scared to face her ! What is wrong with me??

Make sure that you download all recordings and save them someplace safe like on a cloud account... www.dropbox.com is one free service you can use.

 

[Chaparral]

From what I have found, when it comes to alimony, division of property and custody, adultery can be considered by the judge in making his decision in NewJersey

It has come up here that in all states the Om/ow can be sued for intentional infliction of emotional distress.

Why didn't you talk to a lawyer today?

 

[Broken_in_Brooklyn]

Now the update: my father in law and I knocked and the tenant's door this morning. He is much more assertive than me and can be tough at times. He firmly asked the guy to move out.
But then my surprise. The tenant has been apologetic with me, and has said he moves out as soon as he finds something. But now, he changed it. He told my wife's father that he is minding his business; he doesn't come into our room, my wife keeps coming into his. That we have to solve the problem by telling my wife not go to him, that he is not obligated to move out at our request.
My father in law was going to beat him, but I didn't want him arrested. Eventually the tenant agreed to move out, but only after he speaks with my wife. So I guess the show must go on...
My son will not come back home until the other man is gone. My inlaws just like me want to keep his innocence untarnished.

We keep telling you to file for a emergency restraining order. You keep ignoring everybody's advice. Now the guy is telling you he will move after he talks to your wife. It is like he is in charge of your home and family.


Keep ignoring the collective wisdom here and you will be the one evicted from your own home paying child support and alimony so she can support this guy with your paycheck. Why you insist on sitting down with this man after how he has disrespected you is beyond me. GET THE RO NOW!!!!!

 

[Nucking Futs]

We keep telling you to file for a emergency restraining order. You keep ignoring everybody's advice. Now the guy is telling you he will move after he talks to your wife. It is like he is in charge of your home and family.


Keep ignoring the collective wisdom here and you will be the one evicted from your own home paying child support and alimony so she can support this guy with your paycheck. Why you insist on sitting down with this man after how he has disrespected you is beyond me. GET THE RO NOW!!!!!

:iagree::iagree::iagree:

 

[Thorburn]

This is just freaking driving me over the edge. The dude would not be in my house period.

 

[barbados]

Then basically you are saying that in these additional ways NJ is a h3ll hole that no sane person should choose to live in, because they favor cheating scum, and trash like the OM who if he had any shame at all would have high tailed it out of there as soon as the OP discovered it all.

Wow, just wow.

Unfortunate but true. Lisa is correct.

 

[Hardtohandle]

Look guys and gals. I get the idea of wanting to throw him out..

But here is the issue as I see it.

Having an affair is in no way a violent act.. There was no danger to the child or anyone else. So there is no threat honestly.

Now the OP could have violated some laws by renting a room in his home, thus maybe the community board could say you can't do that and fine him. Thus forcing the person to move out because of some community board violation.

But if there is no such issue. The OP would have to pretty much lie that the person was a threat and feared for his life. He would have to articulate quite clearly that there is some sort of threat.

But if he called the cops to make a report the cops would come and then ask what was going on. If this guy is very articulate and honest and says look I'm honestly looking to leave but I have no place to go.. I'm not looking to cause issues here. I have lived here 5 months and I am looking to leave but I need at least a few weeks. It just doesn't happen over night.

The cops will pretty much a hard time doing anything here. It will be referred to landlord tenant court.

Now mind you if I was there I would try to convince the guy to leave and that if things get ugly it could get bad for him and even cost his life if the husband was to snap. A room just isn't worth this hassle and possibly his life. But some cops just might go there and say no crime go to landlord tenant court. They will not be emotionally invested in this.

End result they engaged in a legal contract for housing and having an affair just does not constitute an eviction. I know it completely sucks.. But it is a sad and hard reality..

Trust me being a cop I wanted to toss my wife out on her a$$ and kick the crap out of this other man out of principal but my wife knew she could call my job with 3 numbers.. Hello 911 my husband the cop just did this to me or my boyfriend.. I had to sit on my hand when this other man would kiss my fvcking son goodbye and he got into the car.


It all sucks..

This is why I say, have a destination and don't go nuts how you get there.. Just keep your eye on the mark and make your way to your destination regardless of the twist and turns it takes you to get there.

 

[diwali123]

May I suggest taking the door to his room off the hinges and hiding it? Putting a lock on the outside of the bathroom door that only you have the key to?

 

[LostViking]

Go and buy some Hormel chili. Eat about three cans and take a laxative.

When the time comes, go into his bedroom and leave a big stinky pile on the floor in the corner.

Then when he comes after you, let him hit you. Make sure you have a camera rolling or a friend to act as witness. Then call the cops and have a RO served on him.

 

[tom67]

Go and buy some Hormel chili. Eat about three cans and take a laxative.

When the time comes, go into his bedroom and leave a big stinky pile on the floor in the corner.

Then when he comes after you, let him hit you. Make sure you have a camera rolling or a friend to act as witness. Then call the cops and have a RO served on him.

:lol::rofl::rofl::iagree:

 

[Shaggy]

Look guys and gals. I get the idea of wanting to throw him out..

But here is the issue as I see it.

Having an affair is in no way a violent act.. There was no danger to the child or anyone else. So there is no threat honestly.

Now the OP could have violated some laws by renting a room in his home, thus maybe the community board could say you can't do that and fine him. Thus forcing the person to move out because of some community board violation.

But if there is no such issue. The OP would have to pretty much lie that the person was a threat and feared for his life. He would have to articulate quite clearly that there is some sort of threat.

But if he called the cops to make a report the cops would come and then ask what was going on. If this guy is very articulate and honest and says look I'm honestly looking to leave but I have no place to go.. I'm not looking to cause issues here. I have lived here 5 months and I am looking to leave but I need at least a few weeks. It just doesn't happen over night.

The cops will pretty much a hard time doing anything here. It will be referred to landlord tenant court.

Now mind you if I was there I would try to convince the guy to leave and that if things get ugly it could get bad for him and even cost his life if the husband was to snap. A room just isn't worth this hassle and possibly his life. But some cops just might go there and say no crime go to landlord tenant court. They will not be emotionally invested in this.

End result they engaged in a legal contract for housing and having an affair just does not constitute an eviction. I know it completely sucks.. But it is a sad and hard reality..

Trust me being a cop I wanted to toss my wife out on her a$$ and kick the crap out of this other man out of principal but my wife knew she could call my job with 3 numbers.. Hello 911 my husband the cop just did this to me or my boyfriend.. I had to sit on my hand when this other man would kiss my fvcking son goodbye and he got into the car.


It all sucks..

This is why I say, have a destination and don't go nuts how you get there.. Just keep your eye on the mark and make your way to your destination regardless of the twist and turns it takes you to get there.

The other party doesn't need to hit you for you to feel threatened and for you to suffer damages

Right now the son has had to be removed from the house. Each day he is away, the OP is suffering emotional damages.

As for the OM, then make life there unhappy. Have friends and you do a 24x7 vigil there. Music, bad music such as Kenny Rogers, and cook with a lot of garlic. I presume he doesn't have his own bathroom? See if you can have it occupied.

Oh, and make sure to post him to cheaterville.com

Y'all worry too much about the details at the expense if the bigger goals of right and wrong sometimes.

 

[weightlifter]

Oncefiled he needs a nympho exhibitionist new girfriend who does not mind other people around while they do the deed!

 

[ThePheonix]

Oh, and make sure to post him to cheaterville.com

Y'all worry too much about the details at the expense if the bigger goals of right and wrong sometimes.

According to the tenant, the wife pursuing him and banging him on his legally occupied property. Its the wife that ought to be on cheatersville. Moreover, if the woman has a half way decent appearance, how many red blooded single guys in their 20's are going to stop her from sliding into their bed? Let's face it, it's the wife that's the problem in this story.

 

[tom67]

The other party doesn't need to hit you for you to feel threatened and for you to suffer damages

Right now the son has had to be removed from the house. Each day he is away, the OP is suffering emotional damages.

As for the OM, then make life there unhappy. Have friends and you do a 24x7 vigil there. Music, bad music such as Kenny Rogers, and cook with a lot of garlic. I presume he doesn't have his own bathroom? See if you can have it occupied.

Oh, and make sure to post him to cheaterville.com

Y'all worry too much about the details at the expense if the bigger goals of right and wrong sometimes.

Play "lady" over and over lol better yet play david soul's " don't give up on us baby" Ugh girl across the street kept on playing it over and over what was that like 78? whatever!

 

[Shaggy]

According to the tenant, the wife pursuing him and banging him on his legally occupied property. Its the wife that ought to be on cheatersville. Moreover, if the woman has a half way decent appearance, how many red blooded single guys in their 20's are going to stop her from sliding into their bed? Let's face it, it's the wife that's the problem in this story.

Ok, so post her too.

Though at the moment the goal is to get the OM gone.

Perhaps a different plan is right. Maybe the OP could get some hardcore gay BSDM porn on the computer and inform the OM that what was good for the goose, will be good for the gander !

That might freak him out enough to leave?

 

[Shaggy]

Play "lady" over and over lol better yet play david soul's " don't give up on us baby" Ugh girl across the street kept on playing it over and over what was that like 78? whatever!

I'll suggest either Dirt Deeds Done Dirt Cheap, or YMCA, or anything by Cher.

 

[tom67]

Ok, so post her too.

Though at the moment the goal is to get the OM gone.

Perhaps a different plan is right. Maybe the OP could get some hardcore gay BSDM porn on the computer and inform the OM that what was good for the goose, will be good for the gander !

That might freak him out enough to leave?

Have him subscribed to gay porn mags

 

[EleGirl]

The song "He's Coming to Take You Away" on an infinite loop.. it works very well.