Lila, I think you should just be yourself. Guys WILL (and obviously DO) dig that. For the sexting stuff, just be clear -- you don't do that. Any sexy stuff will be done in person, not via phone, or email.I have been told this throughout my adult life. I am not sure how to control that either. Should I hold back and be cooler when I meet people I like?
If a guy can't get that in his head, then too bad for him -- he will be missing out.
I happen to agree with you -- if you know the tech behind all this, that stuff NEVER disappears and you honestly do NOT know who is accessing your stuff (legal or not). I would never do that either. If I want to see my wife's naked parts, I wait until I'm with her and then ask!