Oh this post was tailor made for me lol! I have the exact same background as your GF. She’s a big girl and will do or not do what she wants.Question for you single ladies: assume you are sexually on the more inexperienced side. You’re middle aged and have not tried certain things for whatever reasons. You meet someone who has done those things. Let’s just say anal or bondage or public sex for argument sake. You tell your new partner that you’ve never done it even though you’ve been sexually active with multiple partners in your life. Two questions:
1) how open would you be to exploring if you were comfortable with the guy?
2) if you were open, would it be to just satisfy your partner or would you explore for your own curiosity?
Edited to say that the reason I ask is because I am living it current gf. While I appreciate her openness, I’d prefer she doesn’t change just for me. I don’t want that weight on my shoulders nor have I asked her to. Yes, before anyone asks, I do plan on talking to her about it because we can talk about anything. I was just looking for insight going into that conversation.
I personally had limited experience as an adult (long story) but always knew I was way more into sex than my situation would allow. The drive was there but the know how, for lack of better terminology, and opportunity wasn’t. I am currently unleashing the lion with my SO and he’s more then ecstatic to have a willing student. He’s got a ton more experience than I do and I look at it like I’m the one reaping all the benefits from his past.
I think you two should have a good talk. If she’s willing to experiment that’s a good sign. I’m willing to try anything at least once with a few exceptions. Find out what her exceptions are and work from there.