Hello! I am new to the forum. I need some advice on where to go from here. I have been with the same man for about 9 and a half years. Recently, I found a pretty obcene text message he sent to another girl and wanted to talk to him about it. Well, one thing led to another and he ended up talking about how he does not know if while he has been with me he has let the love of his life slip through his fingers. He kept referring to her as such. He says that she does not share his feelings, but he thinks she is the love of his life. I don't know what to do. I can not be someones second choice or someone he settles for. I am better than that. I am a wonderful woman and I want him to love me as I love him. How can I or what can I do to help him get over her. I need help. We need help. Please, someone. Can he really love me the way I should or deserve to be loved while he is still hung up on her?