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This morning I get a call from the EX.
Of course I know that it must have something to do with money, for it seems I am just a walking Cheque Book.
The Dog she lives with, which we adopted from a friend of ours when she moved to a place that wouldn't accept canines, is sick and requiring surgery.
A plea then ensued for me to help her with the $1500.00 the VET wanted up front to perform the emergency surgery. Total cost: $3000.00.
The EX, who by the way owes me still going back to January for her ends and also for our daughter's birthday gift and my son's hockey and his camp fees...etc., then goes on to ask me to help her out.
When I say no, that the money I have been budgeting to have to help our kids and myself is not going to be blown on a dog, that I don't have an animal rescue budget..sorry, I get a line about my commitment to the dog!
Ok, so the dog: does not live with me, and it was discussed that since we are trying to sell the house maybe she should let the dog go to avoid dog-stench, hair and scratches on the hardwood to which the EX said NO to...is NOT my dog.
I am a cat person...why? Cuz if they die or get sick and die, I get another one. I don't spend more than $500.00 for a vet on a pet. My last cat lived 19 years on the cheapest ****ty food I could find, had two vaccinations in his life.
Do I like the dog, sure, feel bad about her suffering..yes. but I resent the attitude that since I once lived in my home with the dog and the EX that I now have some requirement to spend anything to maybe save this animal from death. I got my own problems, finances ear-marked for vehicle maintenance, kids education, vacations, taxes are not going to trickle into someone else's dog.
Divorce, separation...there is a line drawn at the behest of one partner at a point...this line divides us forever. By law in Canada I owe her spousal, negotiable in an agreement, and I have a requirment to feed, house and cloth my children.
I pay. And then...I pay more. With no mind towards repayment since I know it won't be forthcoming for extras for the kids, and the fact that the EX has no respect for money or financing agreements - formal or otherwise....
But a dog? Why call me? Oh, right...because I am a walking Cheque Book...That and the fact that her a-bottle-a-day of wine budget doesn't allow her to save for rainy days???
Where is the line, where is the divide? I am compassionate, but my family has long roots in Canada..we don't spend family finances on a sick dog...there are lots of puppies and dogs at the SPCA waiting to take the sick dog's place. We have priorities for the humans first, starting with our kids.
Vent complete.
Of course I know that it must have something to do with money, for it seems I am just a walking Cheque Book.
The Dog she lives with, which we adopted from a friend of ours when she moved to a place that wouldn't accept canines, is sick and requiring surgery.
A plea then ensued for me to help her with the $1500.00 the VET wanted up front to perform the emergency surgery. Total cost: $3000.00.
The EX, who by the way owes me still going back to January for her ends and also for our daughter's birthday gift and my son's hockey and his camp fees...etc., then goes on to ask me to help her out.
When I say no, that the money I have been budgeting to have to help our kids and myself is not going to be blown on a dog, that I don't have an animal rescue budget..sorry, I get a line about my commitment to the dog!
Ok, so the dog: does not live with me, and it was discussed that since we are trying to sell the house maybe she should let the dog go to avoid dog-stench, hair and scratches on the hardwood to which the EX said NO to...is NOT my dog.
I am a cat person...why? Cuz if they die or get sick and die, I get another one. I don't spend more than $500.00 for a vet on a pet. My last cat lived 19 years on the cheapest ****ty food I could find, had two vaccinations in his life.
Do I like the dog, sure, feel bad about her suffering..yes. but I resent the attitude that since I once lived in my home with the dog and the EX that I now have some requirement to spend anything to maybe save this animal from death. I got my own problems, finances ear-marked for vehicle maintenance, kids education, vacations, taxes are not going to trickle into someone else's dog.
Divorce, separation...there is a line drawn at the behest of one partner at a point...this line divides us forever. By law in Canada I owe her spousal, negotiable in an agreement, and I have a requirment to feed, house and cloth my children.
I pay. And then...I pay more. With no mind towards repayment since I know it won't be forthcoming for extras for the kids, and the fact that the EX has no respect for money or financing agreements - formal or otherwise....
But a dog? Why call me? Oh, right...because I am a walking Cheque Book...That and the fact that her a-bottle-a-day of wine budget doesn't allow her to save for rainy days???
Where is the line, where is the divide? I am compassionate, but my family has long roots in Canada..we don't spend family finances on a sick dog...there are lots of puppies and dogs at the SPCA waiting to take the sick dog's place. We have priorities for the humans first, starting with our kids.
Vent complete.