I recently brought my third child home from the hospital. She has been home with us a week now, and at first I thought my husband was going to be very involved with her since he wanted to be the first person to do just about everything with her. I really thought he would be very involved and stay close to the baby since our last child had died of SIDS before she turned 2 months. There wasn't a single picture of him holding her and he realized he missed out on a lot he couldn't get back. His involvement lasted 2 days after baby #3 got home. Then it was right back to the same thing he has done every time our kids come home, "I need guy time." His idea of guy time is spending every moment he isn't sleeping or working, playing his xbox or having friends stay the night. The first weekend after baby got home he promised to spend the entire weekend as a family with the baby, our 3 yr old son, and me. All weekend he didn't spend 5 mins with all of us combined. I mentioned this to him and he promised yet again this weekend (a 4 day holiday weekend) he would spend with us. Then he got a call from his boss asking him to come in and work, he agreed, but found out a few hours later he wouldn't be working after all. He came and told me he wasn't working and immediately walked out of the room and called his friend over to stay the entire weekend! I've tried to get him to watch our 3 yr old while I feed the baby and take care of her, but his idea of watching him is telling him to sit on the couch and not move an inch while he plays his xbox. I then ask my husband if he could hold the baby while I cooked dinner. I turn around a few mins later to see my 3 yr old holding the baby, which was fine, I just told my husband to keep an eye on him. Again a few mins later I go to check on everyone to find my 3 yr old had covered up the baby and was trying to use her as a pillow. I went off because he was too involved in his xbox game to hold her and then too busy too keep an eye on our son holding her. Then yesterday I had to leave the house for a few hours to pick up some stuff for the baby and had to leave our son with my husband because I couldn't fit everything in my car. I came home 5 hours later and my son was down for a nap, so I laid down with the baby for a nap too. When I got up it was a few hours later and was going to wake up my son only for the hubby to say hes in bed for the night. So I ask okay what did you make for dinner, he replies nothing. So I ask okay what did you feed him while I was out, again he says nothing. So I wake up my son and start making him something to eat, while my husband plays his game and holds the baby only to her her screaming her head off 2 mins later because he was so into his game he had slammed her head into his chair. Does anyone have any advice on how to get my husband more involved with the kids and not his game? Because I can't do much more of this 4hrs of sleep in 3 days.