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All I ever wanted was a little bit of my husbands time. Everything was always more important to him. He could never make plans with me because he was afraid someone would call him to go horseback riding, fishing, to the race...you name it. I volunteered to go, but he would never take me up on it.
I did try horseback riding, but my horse bucked me and fractured my hip and pelvis. I was in the hospital/recuperation for 35 days.
I'll never forget that day, he was so mad at me, standing over me when the breath was knocked out of me yelling, "What did you do to the horse? What did you do to the horse?" I was able to grunt out, can't breath. that was a long horrific day. But I tried.
Any way, I told him I want out. He wants to move to the basement until he can get a cabin built. I asked him about how do we go about separation papers. And he said we don't need them, why would we need them, we will just go our separate ways. I said: Well, I think the way it goes, we get a legal separation and then after that, we get a divorce. He sad "We don't need to get a divorce." I said why? He said "benefits" (I bring home the insurance and pay for the wellness center and the Flex spending plan. ) I asked him what benefits and he said taxes. Our taxes would be astronomical if we get a divorce.
Am I a bad person if I want to go on with this. we have been married 32 years and everything has always been my fault. And I have been at fault a lot....But he has said some pretty awul things to me.
He stepped out of the marriage when he was 57, she was 27. At that time, he kept telling me being married to me was like being married to an old woman. I mean, he has always been pretty mean to me.
My daughter told me recently that she would not stand for a separation/divorce. That we were Christians and we made a covenant with God and he was the man of the house and that he was going to have to buck up and fix this marriage, which made me cry, because I am so done. she assured me she would talk to him get him to read the book the 5 languages of Love, and purchased it for my Nook. I am on chapter 5 and it just makes me cry.
I have rambled all over this post. I just want out. He gripes about every little thing I do(He wouldn't have done it that way.) I am never allowed to vent about anything because he turns the conversation around and yells at me about what I did wrong about EVERYTHING. No one knows. He has NEVER been supportive. EVER.
What do you think? AM I a crybaby?
I did try horseback riding, but my horse bucked me and fractured my hip and pelvis. I was in the hospital/recuperation for 35 days.
I'll never forget that day, he was so mad at me, standing over me when the breath was knocked out of me yelling, "What did you do to the horse? What did you do to the horse?" I was able to grunt out, can't breath. that was a long horrific day. But I tried.
Any way, I told him I want out. He wants to move to the basement until he can get a cabin built. I asked him about how do we go about separation papers. And he said we don't need them, why would we need them, we will just go our separate ways. I said: Well, I think the way it goes, we get a legal separation and then after that, we get a divorce. He sad "We don't need to get a divorce." I said why? He said "benefits" (I bring home the insurance and pay for the wellness center and the Flex spending plan. ) I asked him what benefits and he said taxes. Our taxes would be astronomical if we get a divorce.
Am I a bad person if I want to go on with this. we have been married 32 years and everything has always been my fault. And I have been at fault a lot....But he has said some pretty awul things to me.
He stepped out of the marriage when he was 57, she was 27. At that time, he kept telling me being married to me was like being married to an old woman. I mean, he has always been pretty mean to me.
My daughter told me recently that she would not stand for a separation/divorce. That we were Christians and we made a covenant with God and he was the man of the house and that he was going to have to buck up and fix this marriage, which made me cry, because I am so done. she assured me she would talk to him get him to read the book the 5 languages of Love, and purchased it for my Nook. I am on chapter 5 and it just makes me cry.
I have rambled all over this post. I just want out. He gripes about every little thing I do(He wouldn't have done it that way.) I am never allowed to vent about anything because he turns the conversation around and yells at me about what I did wrong about EVERYTHING. No one knows. He has NEVER been supportive. EVER.
What do you think? AM I a crybaby?