Sorry guys, I typed this in before but it hasnt shown up. To put it as briefly as possible. My partner and I were in mostly a distance relationship for nearly 3 years. I moved over to another country to be with him 5 months ago, we were so much in love. It was stressful living with someone again as I found him stressful to live with plus he has issues ongoing re his daughters and ex wife but we were working our way through them. I shouldnt have but I looked in his mobile phone (only time ever) and to my shock and horror I seen text messages to his ex. Let me explain she was his ex a woman he was seeing while married. In his defence if there is any, his ex wife was mentally ill and he took refuge in an affair with this other woman whom he admitted he fell deeply in love with. They broke up when she told him she wouldnt leave her husband for him (yes she was married). After he divorced his wife I started dating him. I always made it clear that I would be highly uncomfortable with any contact with this woman (with his ex wife no problem at all). He said he respected that but sometimes bumped into her in the local village and would have to be polite and say hi. the last text was a drunken one where he said he had been to a business do and seen a woman like her she replied that she thought they shouldnt be texting anymore as he was with me 'now' (yes living with him but had been with him 3 years). He replied that he couldnt help it 'miss you, especially in ..... (where they used to meet). 5 weeks prior to that he sent one were he was reminisicing about swimming naked with her in the Caribbeaan. She replied that she was on holidays in Portugal and he reminded her to 'rub Factor 30 suncream on her nipples' Sorry for the rant and for it being explicit.. I was shocked. I didnt confront him as I was shell shocked and left him saying that I couldnt cope with the stress of the relationship. I only confronted him when I got back home over the phone and he aplogised and said it was so very stupid and she means nothing to him. He is heartbroken (as am I) and is begging for me to give him another chance. I just cant seem to forget or forgive (at present) and not sure I ever can. Should I.....?