Interestingly, this is essentially what he told me himself last night. It's dawning on me that I was very uninteresting and had become so small that he couldn't find me attractive. He says I'm beautiful, and a lot of other complimentary things, but those don't mean as much as being a whole person with a full life. This is something I did not really understand.I think that you should focus right now on falling back in love with yourself, and becoming you again. You need to be your own person. Have your own friends and Hobbies, you need to get motivated and excited about life again.
This seems like very sensible advice. Thank you.Your so young and you have everything going for you. Wake up on a positive note. Set goals. Eat good, workout. Get dressed. Take control of your own life. Stop focusing so much on him. Trust me. Be this happy, positive, and magnetic person that people want to be around. Be someone that you want to be around.
When we fell in love, I had these very strong feelings that I couldn't live without him. Normal people, I'm told, grow out of that eventually, but I didn't. I still feel the same way I did 10 years ago -- that I would drop dead if something happened to him, etc. My self esteem has always been low in some areas and high in others, for example, I don't think of myself as particularly physically attractive but I have a high opinion of myself in some other areas like being very good at certain things (vague, but I mean that I don't hate myself across the board or anything).Trust me, once you become this happy, healthy, well balanced, good work ethic, confident person you become the prize and he will want some of that. He will crawl back into bed with you and he will want to make you happy. Then when that happens, YOU can decide if he is worth it enough for you, if he is trying enough for you, if you even really love him. Because right now you are feeling bad about yourself, your self esteem is low, and you feel like you NEED him.
Given that we have a particularly pathetic dog who follows us around, this image is very powerful. Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts with me, I really appreciate you for that.Don’t give him all your power. That’s why he says he doesn’t love you right now because you gave away your power and stopped being your own person. Focus on you. Listen to uplifting empowering music. Set goals. Stop following him around like a pathetic dog.