I would just point out that sometimes part of the "help" is that the poster gets to vent and share his problems with others, and anonymously, which is a great benefit to many. Here you can hear many views. There are no absolutes, of course. You get some input and then weigh that information and see if anything seems relevant or helpful.Reading a lot of posts, rather consistent concepts seem to run through responses from TAM veterans. For example, in coping with infidelity, betrayed are advised to just divorce the offender and move on. Attempting to repair damage is discouraged because success probability is essentially zero. For marital problems other than infidelity, counseling of one sort or another is recommended.
So, is there a summary sticky somewhere on this site laying out the default concepts for those dealing with marital issues? If so where is it? If not wouldn't that help people searching for answers? It would also help us non-veterans to avoid offering "borderline unethical" advice contrary to TAM wisdom.