Talking too much?

never tell any one out side the marriage anything about the relationship. once a person hears a negative, say a silly arguement between the 2 of you, and you tell your best friend or mother...

they never forget that incident....ever. then they will think they can comment on your relationship, and want to be included on your plans, and dictate how you should or should not fight, make up, twist boundaries, stir the pot--not on purpose, just human nature to look out for the ones we love.

keep all talks happy postive.



edit to add:
there is nothing off limits to talk about to my husband. sex, money, divorce, kids, religon, movies, food, tam, dreams, future adventures. we always talk about our marriage, and see if our views have changed, are we still on the same page about sex, money...us.

these talks stay between us.

To me, the danger of over-sharing is that what is shared is almost overwhelmingly negative. That's human nature. It's the little (or big) dramas that make conversation. I mean, did you ever hear a story on the evening news about how all the traffic lights worked that day? Nope, you hear about the one that malfunctioned.

It's the same with relationships. Your family and friends remember the fight you had, the underwear on the floor and that weird-looking bump. They don't get the benefit of the apologies and the beautiful flowers or hearing about how your car got warmed up before you went to work or whatever. So the impressions of your spouse over time become increasingly negative.

Now to be sure, some of these things leak into conversations. But to me, unless there is some imminent crisis that the person you're talking to can do something about--most of the day to day drama needs to just stay at home.

MuleM said: And are there some things you would tell your friends or family that you wouldn't tell your husband or wife?

And what about going over the spouse's head and talking to in-laws on one of these topics?

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These 2 things... NEVER I take everything to my husband... he is the one I run too with all of my joys, my sorrows, my hopes, my fears, if I am angry... if I am stressed...if I am at him... he listens & hears me out....He is my .

If I did complain about him to my Girl friends, Ha ha - they know us so well, they would think I was the ogre. Not him!!

I'd only make myself look bad. He is very loved by all who knows him. I am too, but they all know I am harder to deal with in reality.

He's never taken anything "bad" about me to anyone else, he is more of a quiet man... he always praises me, even if we had a bad day. He wouldn't let on to the guys at work, for instance...the funny stuff sure- to get a laugh... but not anything that would make me be looked upon in a negative light.

I am pretty open with my close friends though, there really isn't any subject that is too taboo or forbidden to talk about... that HE would have an issue with me sharing, he trusts my judgement... Just like on this forum, I have his blessing.

If I did talk about him to someone -I'd tell him all about it as soon as we seen each other again. We like to bounce personal conversations we've had with others - to each other after the fact... this is very common place for us.