How do I talk about sex with my husband? We are both very shy when it comes to sex. He is a very quiet person in general and I am really only shy when it comes to sex. I have a bad history with sex. We were both virgins when we got married 5 years ago. I was a virgin in the sense that I had never had consensual sex. I have only ever talked to my husband about what happened to me. I made this confession while we were dating and starting to get serious. I didn't want him to think I was this A+ virgin when really I had this type of baggage. I did not go into details and bless him he did not ask for any. I don't know how to talk to him without making him feel bad, but there are times when he says certain words while we are being intimate that make me freak out. I worry that he will be too worried about scaring me that he won't want to touch me. There are things that I want to do for him but am too scared to attempt because I am worried that I will have a panick attack. This has happened once before and I told him I was crying due to hormones. P.S. Just writing this down was extremely hard to do. I have looked through the threads on this site for a long time(2yrs) and just now have worked up the nerve to join and ask for help.