Swinging

No, no idea, I just see cons from my pov.
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What is it with English woman, is sex an escape for every day life? I am asking, really? Please reply.David

I have been to York, kind of sucked.

DavidWYoung said:

I have been to York, kind of sucked.

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Kind of vacuous thing to kind of say and kind of nothing to do with the thread.

DavidWYoung said:

What is it with English woman, is sex an escape for every day life? I am asking, really? Please reply.David

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wha???
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Not that I have first hand experience, but reading your other post I would strongly recommend that you don't go down this road. If it is not something you really want to do and you are not acting from a position of security and strength it is highly likely to be a disaster.

My wife and I tried this once many years ago. I won't bore you with the story but suffice it to say our marriage almost did not survive the event. This is almost always the husbands idea as it was in our case with the wife just going along with it. I advise you not to do this. PM me if you'd like more info on our experience.

In a Marriage Bed - Two's company, three or more's a crowd.

Go to a website called the[ swingers board] if you want the real info on good and bad from people who know not on here.If you are asking on here then you know in your mind you don't want to do it.

heavensangel said:

In a Marriage Bed - Two's company, three or more's a crowd.

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FFM or MMF when you are single it can be pretty hot i would be very happy to have sex with another woman if i found her attractive My estrange actually suggested MMF i actually considered it, he was livid it was a **** test

I had this really strange guy on a dating site that wanted to be cuckold for me and he didn't give up, he just wanted to take care of me but didn't want sex, weird.

JMO but I don't think it something I could do. I think anytime someone really wants to do or try something regardless of what it is, they will try to make it ok in their mind anyway. Their pros will always try to outweigh the cons.

Don't do it.

nosocks said:

Do you think that bringing a third person into a couples sex life can ever work.Why does it work in some marriages to be swingers or cuckold.What are the pros and cons.Any advice appreciated please .:scratchhead:

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If I saw my husband having sex with another woman I'd vomit.

I feel once you're married the intimate bond and the things you do with your spouse should be sacred. There is nothing sacred about swinging.

nosocks said:

Do you think that bringing a third person into a couples sex life can ever work.Why does it work in some marriages to be swingers or cuckold.What are the pros and cons.Any advice appreciated please .:scratchhead:

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I think it takes a specific type of couple to be able to do this without having it blow up into something horrible.

most people can't do it and be successful. I think it depends on what you're into and whether or not you married someone who is into exactly the same thing.

I'd say don't do it because I feel it cheapens the marital bond.

That lifestyle is not for me, but I must say that almost everyone I know IRL that swings or has 3-somes are ALL huge partiers...so that may be why it seems to 'work' for them. Honestly? I don't think it really even works for them, hence the substance abuse...JMO.

Oh, and FWIW, I also know quite a few who have reformed their ways...and they ALL hate discussing their past lifestyles. It's like they've all tried to erase it from their existences. Doesn't sound like much fun to me.

I definitely do not understand the cuckold thing. How could any woman respect a man who would be ok with doing that? Especially the more gross aspects such as clean up duty.

And swinging in general does not interest me.

I would have thought that there was a heightened risk of STD's for a start.
I have no interest in sharing my wife.

It may be silly and insecure of me but can you imagine how you would feel as a man if the other partner had a huge great dong and was able to perform like a porn star on steroids.

If it is for a better sex life, even though I may have started later than some I would much rather concentrate on making myself a better lover and introducing new experiences into our relationship by myself.

nosocks,

I really hope (but doubt) that this is your idea. Your husband has a very tame and manageable fetish that he's managed to F up and let you feel self consious about. Adding this to that already volatile mix will lead to disaster.