Today, I stumbled upon a host of emails in my dad's inbox that suggest that he has the intention to cheat on my mom-a marriage of over 25 years.
I should note, I am not the snooping type. I was borrowing my dad's old phone, since I am currently abroad visiting them-and I guess his inbox on his iphone is linked to a junk mail account of his (which he presumably forgot links to this phone..)
This seems like a recent development, but I have enough proof to know that he has the intention of cheating on my mother. There are notifications in his inbox of 2 opened online dating sites, detailed (and very graphic emails) of secret rendezvous, sex, etc., and a craigslist ad. He even had the audacity to mention that he is indeed married and has children to some of his potential other women.
I love my dad very much. My parents marriage is admired by all of their friends-my mom is a great woman, and I do believe that my dad still loves her. My dad loves me and my brother very much, and that I know for sure.
I think it's something about moving as US expats to Southeast Asia that leads to some excitement about cheating. I should mention that he has friends from work who have, since moving here, cheated on their wives.
I haven't told anybody, and I don't really know what to do. I don't want to be the cause of a divorce, or a rift between him and my mom/myself and brother. He intends to cheat on my mom on his next business trip (as I have learned from correspondences), so I really do want to address it before that time.
Who do I tell first? My dad to clarify things? Or my mom? or my brother.
I don't want to embarrass my dad, and I do want him to know that I love him, but I do want to address this head on.
I really lost at this point as to what to do.
Please, any advice for a 22 year old daughter who so badly wants to reconcile this issue, is much appreciated.
I should note, I am not the snooping type. I was borrowing my dad's old phone, since I am currently abroad visiting them-and I guess his inbox on his iphone is linked to a junk mail account of his (which he presumably forgot links to this phone..)
This seems like a recent development, but I have enough proof to know that he has the intention of cheating on my mother. There are notifications in his inbox of 2 opened online dating sites, detailed (and very graphic emails) of secret rendezvous, sex, etc., and a craigslist ad. He even had the audacity to mention that he is indeed married and has children to some of his potential other women.
I love my dad very much. My parents marriage is admired by all of their friends-my mom is a great woman, and I do believe that my dad still loves her. My dad loves me and my brother very much, and that I know for sure.
I think it's something about moving as US expats to Southeast Asia that leads to some excitement about cheating. I should mention that he has friends from work who have, since moving here, cheated on their wives.
I haven't told anybody, and I don't really know what to do. I don't want to be the cause of a divorce, or a rift between him and my mom/myself and brother. He intends to cheat on my mom on his next business trip (as I have learned from correspondences), so I really do want to address it before that time.
Who do I tell first? My dad to clarify things? Or my mom? or my brother.
I don't want to embarrass my dad, and I do want him to know that I love him, but I do want to address this head on.
I really lost at this point as to what to do.
Please, any advice for a 22 year old daughter who so badly wants to reconcile this issue, is much appreciated.