Thanks girl. That gives me hope! I’m definitely having fear of the of known but I know I’m not the only one who is/has gone through this. Thanks for the encouraging words.The point is that you do have value.....far more then you think.
You've a young woman with your whole life ahead of you and much to offer.
FYI, I left my kids father when they were 5 and 2 after having stayed at home for 5 years.
It can be done. I did it and so can you.
Their father was also military and he had to pay his CS. ...the military made sure of it. If you get any alimony they'll make sure you get that too. He didn't cheat but he was abusive, and I get the military dynamic.
Today I'm an actuary and 100% self sufficient, and my boys are almost grown and doing great....both are very close to me, but they also see their dad.
Take your life back. And that 40 pounds you speak of? It may fix itself when you're free of the guy who treats you poorly.