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He's just not into you anymore and possibly he reignited the affair or he never stopped the affair or he's got someone new.he dropped the bomb saying he feels too guilty about the business and the affair that he doesn't want to be in the relationship anymore.
He does not want to go to counseling, does not want to work on it, just wants to leave.
I know the feeling...It feels like my brain is paralyzed.
I got blindsided too. On Sept. 21st I dropped my wife off at her daughters apartment (we car pooled to work) and everything seemed fine. We kissed and I went on my way. Two hours later tried to call, no answer. She never came home. Looked at my phone and she had deleted every one of my in-laws-numbers and step kids. Came home on October 15th and everything she owned was gone. She left me with all the bills, etc. I called her work and she said that she didn't care if I could make the bills or not, said it wasn't her problem. She blocked my cellphone etc. I found out through a mutual acquaintence she had planned this for 2 months... she gamed me big time.. hang in there, you are probably better off.He does not want to go to counseling, does not want to work on it, just wants to leave. I totally did not see this coming! (even yesterday we were planning our next vacation in February)
I've been through this superstorm, and I know of this game very well. Excep I was left, deleted, and had false charges filed because she was "afraid" of her gentle never physically abusive husband. If you want your wife to soften and be friendly again you're going to need to empathize with her pain and let her know you understand her. Trust me on this one!I got blindsided too. On Sept. 21st I dropped my wife off at her daughters apartment (we car pooled to work) and everything seemed fine. We kissed and I went on my way. Two hours later tried to call, no answer. She never came home. Looked at my phone and she had deleted every one of my in-laws-numbers and step kids. Came home on October 15th and everything she owned was gone. She left me with all the bills, etc. I called her work and she said that she didn't care if I could make the bills or not, said it wasn't her problem. She blocked my cellphone etc. I found out through a mutual acquaintence she had planned this for 2 months... she gamed me big time.. hang in there, you are probably better off.
made my day !!! :smthumbup:So I told him I am moving out and he started to cry.