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My partner of 12+ years left me this morning. We didn't have the best relationship for the last couple of years, with a failing business and he cheated on me, which I discovered 18 months ago.
We have been going through counseling and I thought we were making good progress but this morning, BAM, he dropped the bomb saying he feels too guilty about the business and the affair that he doesn't want to be in the relationship anymore.
He does not want to go to counseling, does not want to work on it, just wants to leave. I totally did not see this coming! (even yesterday we were planning our next vacation in February) He was so calm and even seemed relieved, it seems like he has been thinking about this for a while.
I cried and cried and cried and I am in so much shock. I don't know what to do. I spoke to a couple of friends, which felt good but I don't know what to do right now or even what I am supposed to be doing. It feels like my brain is paralyzed. Any suggestions on articles or websites or things I can do that can help set me on a path to independence? I know this will be a very long process but I am at square 0 and I don't even know where Square 1 is.
We have been going through counseling and I thought we were making good progress but this morning, BAM, he dropped the bomb saying he feels too guilty about the business and the affair that he doesn't want to be in the relationship anymore.
He does not want to go to counseling, does not want to work on it, just wants to leave. I totally did not see this coming! (even yesterday we were planning our next vacation in February) He was so calm and even seemed relieved, it seems like he has been thinking about this for a while.
I cried and cried and cried and I am in so much shock. I don't know what to do. I spoke to a couple of friends, which felt good but I don't know what to do right now or even what I am supposed to be doing. It feels like my brain is paralyzed. Any suggestions on articles or websites or things I can do that can help set me on a path to independence? I know this will be a very long process but I am at square 0 and I don't even know where Square 1 is.