[happyhusband0005]

Your husband F'ed up. He went out drunk to a strip club with the guys and lied about it. Lying was stupid and made the situation so much worse. I believe he is remorseful and has hopefully learned a valuable lesson that lying was the worst part. These big sales meetings can be very testosterone driven manliness competitions.

Now I've been to a strip club 4 times in my life, 3 times with my wife 1 time without. Yes the girls do come over and act all flirty to try and get you to pay for a private lap dance. They do it uninvited and aggressively but most typically move on quickly because they are all business. For me the best part of going to a strip club as sitting back and watching the show. Not the girls but the guys. A lot of guys are fall down drunken fools and it's pretty funny to watch. These women just take their money so easily, it's quite impressive. I have a feeling your husband is kind of like me.

I'm not interested in getting lap dances it's not that interesting. The only time I have was with my wife, it was silly and fun and a good part of the time my wife was just peppering the girl with questions about her boobs and how much money she makes a night.

I think you will get past this but your husband is going to have to really work hard to make up for this stupid mistake. I think it's a good sign he didn't lie when confronted face to face. The fact that he acted so odd tells me he is not comfortable with lying to you. Your anger is well justified and you need to communicate that until you are sure he understands it. Get counseling if needed.

He is still the same guy you know and love he just made a really gloriously stupid mistake.

This might sound crazy but I think part of your stress is that your imagination is creating a picture of the situation. You might want to have your husband take you to a strip club late one night so you can see what I mean by the show. I think you will probably realize your husband is not one of the fools these places live off of. And as Chris Rock says about strip clubs, "there is no sex in the champagne room".

 

[happyhusband0005]

Why is his penis damp? I think someone needs to call the health inspector...

:laugh:HA HA HA. My wife and I did go to a big club in Vegas that had a male stripper room so I went in there with her and she got a private dance. She came out laughing her ass off because he was so "greasy" and I got a free drink sent over by a gay guy while she was in there. Hilarious 25 minutes all around.

 

[happyhusband0005]

It is so predictable… strip clubs or pornography or anything else like that is mentioned, and in com the hordes of people saying they wouldn't care if their spouse did something. That is irrelevant. The bottom line is that the behavior hurts this spouse, and her hurt is entirely valid. If her husband cares about her feelings, then he will be able to survive a poor bear and life without naked women shaking their parts at hom.

I think in this case (for me anyway) the point is the strip club is not what most women think it is. It's not a sexual thing at all. Only the most sad delusional man would think there is any chance for something to happen. I can imagine a women who doesn't know any better picturing her husband sitting back with his pants unzipped and his shirt ripped open while the girls are all over him asking if he wants to come back to her place after her shift. In reality the whole seen is kind of laughable especially if your a happily married man. So the point is for the OP to not let her imagination get away from her on that front. The bigger issue for her is the lying about it. So she can put the worry that he did anything sketchy aside and focus on dealing with the why did he lie about going to the club and move past his dumb mistake.

 

[happyhusband0005]

QFT.

What does Quantum Field Theory have to do with this discussion.