Wow
I'm not going to laugh at you, that would just be nasty for anyone to do.
But what you are going to do about it?
I'm not going to laugh at you, that would just be nasty for anyone to do.
But what you are going to do about it?
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I'm so sorry. 
Yea, we get that it's very unlikely to happen without penetration... the point Landon was making was asking if you ever discussed wanting children before you attempted having sex.
Ok, so she never wanted kids... but did YOU ever want any? Gotta say, she found the best way to avoid having kids...choosing to not try to fix something that is fixable.
Hello Mr. Horse,
I want to commend you on your bravery and respect for coming here to share this with us. I can somehow relate to you on an experience level, but I am a woman, and I was a virgin when I first met/slept with my husband. I was 23. Now, as a woman, being a 23 year-old virgin is both a badge of honor and the scarlet letter of shame. I was VERY EMBARRASSED to tell my husband that I was a virgin. H*!! I was 23 years old!!! I should have had at least 1 experience! Right? :scratchhead: After I had my initiation into sex, I never wanted it to happen again!!! IT HURT LIKE A [email protected]#$#@! I couldn't believe that someone who professes to love me to make me do that again!! I am now 46, and I love sex almost as much as he does! Believe me that really is saying something if you knew he was a former military man who just got of of an island or duty from over 2 years without sex. He was 25 then.
I want to tell you that you can't imagine how painful sex can be for an average woman, not to mention a woman with vaginismus. When I lost mine, and for a couple of years after, it felt like I just put my WRIST through MY EAR CANAL and FLOSSED with it for 20 MINUTES!!!!! NOT COMFORTABLE AT ALL!!!!!
I did NOT have vaginismus! I think you are an exceptional man with soooo much love in his heart to put yourself through this!!!!! You are a GOOD MAN!!:smthumbup:
Now, you NEED to get your wife to a professional sex Dr. First, start with an Obstetrician/ Gynecologist. After that you should ask for a specialist in this area. Women were biologically designed to have children ( a basketball pass through her legs!) Yeah, tacky but if you take measurements, the pelvic structure of a woman has an opening about 4-5 times bigger than a man's. Also, if a baby's head can pass through that opening, well, I'm sure you won't cripple her.
I'm not saying vaginismus is not a problematic condition, but she is not the first one to have it and she can also be treated for it as have many other women have. Remember, I am a woman too, so I have an understanding of what is happening, but REALLY 20 YEARS IS MORE THAN LONG ENOUGH to TREAT THIS PROBLEM!!!!!!!
SEEK MEDICAL HELP!!!!!
Good luck to you both!
I want to commend you on your bravery and respect for coming here to share this with us. I can somehow relate to you on an experience level, but I am a woman, and I was a virgin when I first met/slept with my husband. I was 23. Now, as a woman, being a 23 year-old virgin is both a badge of honor and the scarlet letter of shame. I was VERY EMBARRASSED to tell my husband that I was a virgin. H*!! I was 23 years old!!! I should have had at least 1 experience! Right? :scratchhead: After I had my initiation into sex, I never wanted it to happen again!!! IT HURT LIKE A [email protected]#$#@! I couldn't believe that someone who professes to love me to make me do that again!! I am now 46, and I love sex almost as much as he does! Believe me that really is saying something if you knew he was a former military man who just got of of an island or duty from over 2 years without sex. He was 25 then.
I want to tell you that you can't imagine how painful sex can be for an average woman, not to mention a woman with vaginismus. When I lost mine, and for a couple of years after, it felt like I just put my WRIST through MY EAR CANAL and FLOSSED with it for 20 MINUTES!!!!!
NOT COMFORTABLE AT ALL!!!!! I did NOT have vaginismus! I think you are an exceptional man with soooo much love in his heart to put yourself through this!!!!! You are a GOOD MAN!!:smthumbup:
Now, you NEED to get your wife to a professional sex Dr. First, start with an Obstetrician/ Gynecologist. After that you should ask for a specialist in this area. Women were biologically designed to have children ( a basketball pass through her legs!) Yeah, tacky but if you take measurements, the pelvic structure of a woman has an opening about 4-5 times bigger than a man's. Also, if a baby's head can pass through that opening, well, I'm sure you won't cripple her.
I'm not saying vaginismus is not a problematic condition, but she is not the first one to have it and she can also be treated for it as have many other women have. Remember, I am a woman too, so I have an understanding of what is happening, but REALLY 20 YEARS IS MORE THAN LONG ENOUGH to TREAT THIS PROBLEM!!!!!!!
SEEK MEDICAL HELP!!!!!
Good luck to you both!
Well heres the kicker, one of the things that sent me off looking for answers and support is this.Hello Mr. Horse,
Now, you NEED to get your wife to a professional sex Dr. First, start with an Obstetrician/ Gynecologist. After that you should ask for a specialist in this area. Women were biologically designed to have children ( a basketball pass through her legs!) Yeah, tacky but if you take measurements, the pelvic structure of a woman has an opening about 4-5 times bigger than a man's. Also, if a baby's head can pass through that opening, well, I'm sure you won't cripple her.
I'm not saying vaginismus is not a problematic condition, but she is not the first one to have it and she can also be treated for it as have many other women have. Remember, I am a woman too, so I have an understanding of what is happening, but REALLY 20 YEARS IS MORE THAN LONG ENOUGH to TREAT THIS PROBLEM!!!!!!!
SEEK MEDICAL HELP!!!!!
Good luck to you both!
She was contacted by her dr when she turned 45 to get a mammogram done, I suggested she get a smear test at the same time..
Her answer was that she didn't need to, she'd spoken with her Dr 15 years ago about everything and there is a note in her file saying not to contact her about smear tests..
So a shame that I thought was ours alone isnt, it's also pinned to a file! And far from addressing the issue she has sidestepped it completely, with a medical professional...
:scratchhead:
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