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Glad you're responding with strength, just as I thought you would. You're an alley cat and she's a house feline who thinks she can hang with the cats who live outside. Truth is, take her catnip away and she's lost. I can't seem to get away from these domestic pet analogies. :)

Seriously though, nice response. Keep your foot on his neck because her husband has no such influence over her, so you'll have to keep a very close eye on her. Perhaps place a VAR in your husbands car as I suspect she may not be done, as it's a game to her. She has the disposition of young, immature alpha male. Knowing full well where your boundaries lie served as a challenge to her.

She was offended you had the nerve to claim (your husband) and boundary your territory (do not touch) and took it as a challenge, hence faked the lame ass card maneuver to flaunt violating your boundaries and humiliate you with handsy and footsie games.
 

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Glad you're responding with strength, just as I thought you would. You're an alley cat and she's a house feline who thinks she can hang with the cats who live outside. Truth is, take her catnip away and she's lost. I can't seem to get away from these domestic pet analogies. :)

Seriously though, nice response. Keep your foot on his neck because her husband has no such influence over her, so you'll have to keep a very close eye on her. Perhaps place a VAR in your husbands car as I suspect she may not be done, as it's a game to her. She has the disposition of young, immature alpha male. Knowing full well where your boundaries lie served as a challenge to her.

She was offended you had the nerve to claim (your husband) and boundary your territory (do not touch) and took it as a challenge, hence faked the lame ass card maneuver to flaunt violating your boundaries and humiliate you with handsy and footsie games.
VAR seems live a very smart idea. Looking for peace of mind and even though I hate having to go to such levels, I feel he put me in that position and left me no choice. Gotta do whatever it takes.
 

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My lord, I just cannot digest men like the other woman's husband. No wonder why she's on the prowl looking for validation from other men. Pathetic non response by that woman's husband. he must be one of those men that get their jollies by seeing their woman with another man, sick.

Cat. Just keep it tight with your husband. One more time and you'd know it's not longer worthy to be a relationship guardian. You cannot go all out to the point of being a jailer. When a relationship becomes too hard to sustain, then it should die its natural death. Why force it.
 

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My lord, I just cannot digest men like the other woman's husband. No wonder why she's on the prowl looking for validation from other men. Pathetic non response by that woman's husband. he must be one of those men that get their jollies by seeing their woman with another man, sick.

Cat. Just keep it tight with your husband. One more time and you'd know it's not longer worthy to be a relationship guardian. You cannot go all out to the point of being a jailer. When a relationship becomes too hard to sustain, then it should die its natural death. Why force it.
Truth! That’s not who I am either. If he wants to go that bad, he can. I’m not stopping him. I’m just focusing on me right now. Getting myself back to who I lost years ago. Missed my husband but also missed the old me. This whole thing has slapped me into a reality check. This isn’t my first rodeo and my first x put me through a number that could be movie worthy. After that, I vowed that no one would pull one over like that again. No matter how often I want to believe the best in people, I also know the evil that is unfathomable.
My husband now was just really dumb. He pretty much tipped me off from the start without saying it. Just to many oddities. As if he wanted to be caught and fought for. The OW knew exactly what she was doing. It’s become more clear and apparent as time goes by just how intentional she was. Doesn’t hurt any less and won’t stop me from protecting all that’s mine - kids, finances, home, etc - I make the money in the family. It’s never been about that but it did keep me away from my family with tons of travel. I’ve put a stop to that too. I didn’t make them a priority as I should have. Least of all my husband. I left him alone to himself even when we were both at home. He would beg me to just hang out and sit with him to watch tv. I was just tired and resentful for his lack of communication and attention in other areas. Constant years of back and forth blame games and nit picking. I’m just over it. That’s not who I am. He isn’t either. Back to basics and moving forward - even if sticking it out is the hardest thing to do. Don’t want to lose him. In my mind he is still a wonderful man that made a very stupid selfish decision off of a fantasy life that we actually once had together a long time ago. He just wanted that back. Like I did. So here we go putting our big pants on as a team.
Positivity in all this mess is small, but I’m not going to play the victim in a part that I also partook in. Victim isn’t really my thing. I suck at it. Always land on my feet anyway with or without someone. This won’t define me.
 

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Cat, it will suck for your little girl to not have her friend around, but you need to ELIMINATE the friend's mother from your lives. ASAP! She is a loose cannon (physically and mentally), with, apparently, very little to lose. And your husband sounds pretty pathetic too, doing what he did, right in front of you. Is it possible that her husband may have had designs on you for a possible wife swap?? I mean, it would explain a lot. Either way, you need to shake that rat from your neck (the friend's mom). Your daughter will find new friends. If your marriage is that important to you, and you truly think that this was a one-time thing with your POS husband, then you MUST eradicate POSOW from your life immediately. Your husband must send her a notice of NO CONTACT, if he hasn't already done so. I get the notarized agreement that you all made and why. And maybe, right now, he is thinking he will abide by it. But, in the future, he will just hide any affair much more carefully, or simply hire a lawyer to advise him on how to get out of your little contract. But yes, if you are going to stay with him, VAR and GPS his car. With the GPS, you can quietly track his car in real time, without his knowledge, so you have some sense of security. Sucks that you would have to do that, but HE HAS EARNED IT!!!!

I'm sorry that you are here with this sh!tty situation.
 

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Hi - this is my first post. I’m still reeling from what seemed like yesterday but I guess it’s been a month now but I’m dealing with a double betrayal and a sticky situation that I’m not sure how to navigate.
What I’m about to say in no means gives my husband an out or makes excuses for what he chose to do. I am not planning on leaving him so I’m putting that out their now.
I apologize in advance for the very long post but it’s the first time I’ve had to really get it out.

My husband and I have been together for over 9 years and coming up on 7 years of marriage.
Both of us from previous marriages and both have had our share of nightmares from our past. We both took many many years to just be single before we met by accident. Neither of us with the intention to be in a relationship. But we both kind of got struck by lightening and fell in love. He wanted to get married months after we met and I wanted to just wait it out to be sure, because to say my life wasn’t filled with endless drama would be an understatement. We ended up getting married two years later.
Our odds were so stacked against us but we knew we were meant to be.
In those 7 years we have a lot of things that really led up to where we are today. Lost sight of us. We stopped listening to each other and then communication, respect and lack of intimacy followed. I take as much responsibility for that as he does. I have three girls and he doesn’t have children but he took mine on and never looked back. He’s been an excellent father to them and even though we lost our way, that always remained. We knew we loved each other but years of being ignored and overlooked from each of us and being stubborn - we never figured out how to dig ourselves out. So we accepted it and we became complacent.
The difference is, I never wavered. Although I had the chance often, I’m very loyalty. I come out of a broken messed up family and then into an awful previous marriage so I could never fathom doing that to the person I loved. Just not in my DNA.
Our youngest daughter is 10. She’s had her best friend since kindergarten but it’s always remained in school until lock down happened. They went to online schooling and to get my kid from going crazy, I reached out to the girls mom and asked if we could schedule Covid play dates, as we were all working from home
and had similar situations where we took care of our older parents. I didn’t know much about the family but as we started to do the back and forth I got to know the mom and we became fast friends. Her and her husband have been together since high school and she became a mom at 16. They have been married over 20 years and now have three girls. Same age as my three. After several months, it was apparent that we had to get the husbands together because they both needed friends and they both were so similar. I invited them over in October and we all just hit it off and our girls were all super happy. Soon after my father became very very ill and i had to fly out and care for him. What was supposed to be a week ended up a month. I continued to have my husband do drop off’s and pick ups while I was gone. When I returned, if we just kind of continued the pattern as it was much easier from his work to go pick up my daughter or her friend since it was literally just down the road from his office.
Friends mom and I started planning more family time all together. The mom and I had more personal conversations- she asked me more about my marriage and she shared her troubles and I didn’t think much about it.
Rolling into February 2021 - we had game night and my husband said: my wife is super territorial and protective. If she catches anyone flirting or touching me, she gets crazy. Girls Mom inquires an example and my husband gave a few. We all laughed about it and I just said: “what’s mine is mine. You don’t touch my husband.” I’m not sure why that particular conversation stuck with me so hard but I believe it’s because it was almost a warning to the other mom and I started having a weird gut reaction to it - struck a chord in me.
I’m a hawk. You don’t ever touch my husband. Yes you can hug him but make it brief and don’t linger. Don’t call him babe or honey. He’s not yours to call that. So yes, I’m very protective.
After she was warned however, she chose to ignore it because after the Girls mom would touch him on the shoulder or chest when she laughed. I kind of chalked it off as that’s how she is excuse. Very fun, energetic and bubbly. However - I kept it in my back pocket. Weeks went by and we started making more plans. I decided to ask her if she wanted to do a mom and BFF camping trip mid-March with just my one daughter and her best friend.
She was all for it. On the camping trip we bonded more. She told me I was becoming one of her best friends. She confided in me more about her marriage and I sympathized because I was going through similar situation. She told me she was considering divorce and I just listened. She asked me a lot about my husband and I told her that we’ve had our problems but that I loved him so much and at the end of the day he was my world. That we had things to work through and that getting their was a challenge but worth it. Her marriage opened my eyes to where I didn’t want to be. She actually made me realize so much. And yet the two days conversations with her just didn’t stick well with me. I can’t pin point it but it was the gut instinct I still had about her not heeding the advice of touching my husband. Call it petty or radar but I just kept thinking they wouldn’t be that stupid.
We had a great overall camping trip and decided to do one big family one a month later.
When we got home she told me her husband was super on board for camping. By then both husbands were getting super tight and always joking and talking. Girls mom told me that we should begin to plan and come over for game night the following weekend. I wasn’t really up for it, wanted to stay home but my husband was all for it, so I decided not to be a stick in the mud.
We get their that night and my husband isn’t much of a drinker but decided to tie one on.
The four of us ate dinner at their place and the two guys sat together and we both sat across from our husbands. Her husband wasn’t drinking, I was being careful not to drink much but both my husband and her started drinking quite a lot. She kept trying to fill up my glass but I was not really in the mood and my gut told me no. As we got the cards out, she was still sitting next to me and she suddenly said: Wow - I can really see your cards!!!! I don’t want to be seeing your cards so I’m going to move” and she moved across from me between my husband and hers. So the scene was me, my husband, her and her husband. I thought it was super odd because I wasn’t showing my cards at all and it really gnawed on me. As the evening progressed she started touching my husband to often. They were drinking heavily by now and it was super obvious something was up. He then for a brief moment had his hand around her on her hip during a break. When we sat back down - she was practically in his lap. Then it got weird. The husband was facing them where he could see everything going on and he wasn’t drinking. I was across but couldn’t see what was happening under the table but got suspicious that hands were not where they should be. I was confused as her husband said nothing and I was just feeling as if I was being crazy. My husband would lean in and kiss me and tell me he loved me (yea that sucked) but their hands were on each other and playing footsies. I “dropped” my cards and that’s when I saw enough. I immediately sprung out of my chair and said we had to go. I was out of their like a flash. Their kids were their but mine was with my ex. I was still confused by her husbands none reaction to it all as he was watching it all happen next to him sober and didn’t want to cause a scene with the children around.
My husband drunk as a skunk in the car and I just completely freaked out on him. He didn’t deny it one bit. Needless to say we came home and the stuff hit the fan. He then blurted out blame on me and of course became defiant. It wasn’t until the next day or two that after he sobered up, it alllll came out. They had an emotional affair since beginning of February that started with the pick ups and drop off’s. Texts became emails - Both of them feeding off their sexual fantasies and needs that weren’t being met. Bashing her husband and I for not being the partners they need. Etc etc
I know it never went to them actually acting it out and that they were still in a stage of just fantasy but haven’t pulled the trigger. She may have but my husband was still to scared to go their literally. Husband dis say that it would have come to that eventually as it was getting to the “what if” point of their conversations.

The last four weeks have been super emotional for me. I feel my husband and I met a tipping point that made us realize how miserable and unhappy we’ve been by our own stubborn actions that we both take complete responsibility for. Not him cheating - that’s on him but it took both for us to get where we were. It made us realize so much but also that we truly still love each other. It doesn’t take away all the hurt and distrust I feel among all the other emotional roller coaster feelings but we know that we want to fight for us before we give up.
I never saw the communication between them as he deleted as he went so he knew what he was doing. He did reach out to her the next day after and told her I found out. She knew I was watching because she acted so dumb. At first she was like: Huh? Then when husband spelled it out that I saw everything, she wrote back. “what the hell? My husband didn’t mind.”
Then he said I knew about all the messages in detail and that he was breaking all contact and chooses me. And she didn’t flinch. She just said “of course you choose her. I’m not planning on leaving my husband either”
That was how it was left between them.
She knew I never saw those emails so she continued to act innocent because I did text them both together and made things a 100% clear that if they so much as cross each other again they will get outed to everyone including our children. Her response was so innocent on how some dumb messages ruined our friendship, blah blah blah. But it was more then that. She contacted my husband while I was in the car next to her and then she straight up messed with him in front of my face. Then acts like she remembers nothing and it wasn’t a big deal.
Of course you can imagine the situation now. I have to deal with her because I don’t want to break a wonderful and long friendship these two little ones have because their parents chose to make a seriously bad choice. Now I’m the one stuck with her mom and scheduling play dates. It’s killing me. Mostly because she’s so brazen she drops her off at my door and starts chatting with me as if we were bff’s. I’m trying to be super business and she’s always putting stupid jokes and acting like nothing ever happened. I can’t stand it and I don’t know what to do. I know what I should do, but I can’t get myself to separate the girls.
I so want to seriously confront her with words in a way that would knock her senseless but I don’t want to give her that satisfaction.
My husband is an idiot - not going to sugar coat that one bit. We have tons to work through and the trust is out the window. Their is no way but to try and trust him because if he wants to see her their a million ways they can do it. I can set boundless and a leash but at the end of the day I can’t keep track a 100%. Especially not in this day and age. That whole process is a category of its own, but constantly reminded because I have to deal with her is killing me. She has no remorse. Obviously her husband doesn’t care or he’s one of “those” guys that like to watch. No clue, don’t care. I’m trying to get my daughter to just make some more new friends but those girls are loyal to each other. Every time I have to hear their names or one of them brings up her mom, I want to scream.
I absolutely hate that there are so many of these kinds of females in the world. Yes you are right she knew exactly what she was doing. They always do.

I hate to say it, but were this my kid, I’d tell them the only time she’s going to be seeing said friend is at school from now on. And quite honestly, I’d probably also let my kid know the other mom did something so nasty and immoral I will not tolerate her presence any longer. If the girls were older teenagers and could meet up at the mall without my intervention that would be different, but I wouldn’t have my kid at their house or them dropping their kid at mine. No way.

As for your husband, man. What an idiot. You sound like a pretty amazing lady to me. Spicy too.
 

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The thing about your daughter, these people have a way of taking away anything that’s yours. We had an eerily similar situation via some friends a decade ago - lady sounded just like the one you’re dealing with.

Two mum’s became inseparable when their girls were little, eventually one mum knew what the other was all about and it ended with a massive situation. Said mum tried to be the bigger person and let the kids be friends, but worst mistake ever! Once they were teens, around 16 the mother (husband eventually saw the light) took control of the teens life to the extent that the poor kid was so groomed that it became a situation where mum and dad were the bad guys, and the vixen was the cool parent, ‘ohh your parents just don’t understand you honey, come to me whenever you need!’ Of course any 16 year old doesn’t like to hear no! Eventually they took a stand and went to pick up their daughter from yet another 3-day sleepover, and the vixen called the police, convinced the teen to get an intervention order against her mum! Worst!

These people are trouble!! So let her behaviour towards your husband be an indicator of what will eventually happen to your daughter. Kids don’t understand some things, but they do need adults to stick up for them. I would protect my daughter from her over the unfortunate friendship situation. Your daughter will and probably already is a pawn in her wretched game.
 

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Hi - this is my first post. I’m still reeling from what seemed like yesterday but I guess it’s been a month now but I’m dealing with a double betrayal and a sticky situation that I’m not sure how to navigate.
What I’m about to say in no means gives my husband an out or makes excuses for what he chose to do. I am not planning on leaving him so I’m putting that out their now.
I apologize in advance for the very long post but it’s the first time I’ve had to really get it out.

My husband and I have been together for over 9 years and coming up on 7 years of marriage.
Both of us from previous marriages and both have had our share of nightmares from our past. We both took many many years to just be single before we met by accident. Neither of us with the intention to be in a relationship. But we both kind of got struck by lightening and fell in love. He wanted to get married months after we met and I wanted to just wait it out to be sure, because to say my life wasn’t filled with endless drama would be an understatement. We ended up getting married two years later.
Our odds were so stacked against us but we knew we were meant to be.
In those 7 years we have a lot of things that really led up to where we are today. Lost sight of us. We stopped listening to each other and then communication, respect and lack of intimacy followed. I take as much responsibility for that as he does. I have three girls and he doesn’t have children but he took mine on and never looked back. He’s been an excellent father to them and even though we lost our way, that always remained. We knew we loved each other but years of being ignored and overlooked from each of us and being stubborn - we never figured out how to dig ourselves out. So we accepted it and we became complacent.
The difference is, I never wavered. Although I had the chance often, I’m very loyalty. I come out of a broken messed up family and then into an awful previous marriage so I could never fathom doing that to the person I loved. Just not in my DNA.
Our youngest daughter is 10. She’s had her best friend since kindergarten but it’s always remained in school until lock down happened. They went to online schooling and to get my kid from going crazy, I reached out to the girls mom and asked if we could schedule Covid play dates, as we were all working from home
and had similar situations where we took care of our older parents. I didn’t know much about the family but as we started to do the back and forth I got to know the mom and we became fast friends. Her and her husband have been together since high school and she became a mom at 16. They have been married over 20 years and now have three girls. Same age as my three. After several months, it was apparent that we had to get the husbands together because they both needed friends and they both were so similar. I invited them over in October and we all just hit it off and our girls were all super happy. Soon after my father became very very ill and i had to fly out and care for him. What was supposed to be a week ended up a month. I continued to have my husband do drop off’s and pick ups while I was gone. When I returned, if we just kind of continued the pattern as it was much easier from his work to go pick up my daughter or her friend since it was literally just down the road from his office.
Friends mom and I started planning more family time all together. The mom and I had more personal conversations- she asked me more about my marriage and she shared her troubles and I didn’t think much about it.
Rolling into February 2021 - we had game night and my husband said: my wife is super territorial and protective. If she catches anyone flirting or touching me, she gets crazy. Girls Mom inquires an example and my husband gave a few. We all laughed about it and I just said: “what’s mine is mine. You don’t touch my husband.” I’m not sure why that particular conversation stuck with me so hard but I believe it’s because it was almost a warning to the other mom and I started having a weird gut reaction to it - struck a chord in me.
I’m a hawk. You don’t ever touch my husband. Yes you can hug him but make it brief and don’t linger. Don’t call him babe or honey. He’s not yours to call that. So yes, I’m very protective.
After she was warned however, she chose to ignore it because after the Girls mom would touch him on the shoulder or chest when she laughed. I kind of chalked it off as that’s how she is excuse. Very fun, energetic and bubbly. However - I kept it in my back pocket. Weeks went by and we started making more plans. I decided to ask her if she wanted to do a mom and BFF camping trip mid-March with just my one daughter and her best friend.
She was all for it. On the camping trip we bonded more. She told me I was becoming one of her best friends. She confided in me more about her marriage and I sympathized because I was going through similar situation. She told me she was considering divorce and I just listened. She asked me a lot about my husband and I told her that we’ve had our problems but that I loved him so much and at the end of the day he was my world. That we had things to work through and that getting their was a challenge but worth it. Her marriage opened my eyes to where I didn’t want to be. She actually made me realize so much. And yet the two days conversations with her just didn’t stick well with me. I can’t pin point it but it was the gut instinct I still had about her not heeding the advice of touching my husband. Call it petty or radar but I just kept thinking they wouldn’t be that stupid.
We had a great overall camping trip and decided to do one big family one a month later.
When we got home she told me her husband was super on board for camping. By then both husbands were getting super tight and always joking and talking. Girls mom told me that we should begin to plan and come over for game night the following weekend. I wasn’t really up for it, wanted to stay home but my husband was all for it, so I decided not to be a stick in the mud.
We get their that night and my husband isn’t much of a drinker but decided to tie one on.
The four of us ate dinner at their place and the two guys sat together and we both sat across from our husbands. Her husband wasn’t drinking, I was being careful not to drink much but both my husband and her started drinking quite a lot. She kept trying to fill up my glass but I was not really in the mood and my gut told me no. As we got the cards out, she was still sitting next to me and she suddenly said: Wow - I can really see your cards!!!! I don’t want to be seeing your cards so I’m going to move” and she moved across from me between my husband and hers. So the scene was me, my husband, her and her husband. I thought it was super odd because I wasn’t showing my cards at all and it really gnawed on me. As the evening progressed she started touching my husband to often. They were drinking heavily by now and it was super obvious something was up. He then for a brief moment had his hand around her on her hip during a break. When we sat back down - she was practically in his lap. Then it got weird. The husband was facing them where he could see everything going on and he wasn’t drinking. I was across but couldn’t see what was happening under the table but got suspicious that hands were not where they should be. I was confused as her husband said nothing and I was just feeling as if I was being crazy. My husband would lean in and kiss me and tell me he loved me (yea that sucked) but their hands were on each other and playing footsies. I “dropped” my cards and that’s when I saw enough. I immediately sprung out of my chair and said we had to go. I was out of their like a flash. Their kids were their but mine was with my ex. I was still confused by her husbands none reaction to it all as he was watching it all happen next to him sober and didn’t want to cause a scene with the children around.
My husband drunk as a skunk in the car and I just completely freaked out on him. He didn’t deny it one bit. Needless to say we came home and the stuff hit the fan. He then blurted out blame on me and of course became defiant. It wasn’t until the next day or two that after he sobered up, it alllll came out. They had an emotional affair since beginning of February that started with the pick ups and drop off’s. Texts became emails - Both of them feeding off their sexual fantasies and needs that weren’t being met. Bashing her husband and I for not being the partners they need. Etc etc
I know it never went to them actually acting it out and that they were still in a stage of just fantasy but haven’t pulled the trigger. She may have but my husband was still to scared to go their literally. Husband dis say that it would have come to that eventually as it was getting to the “what if” point of their conversations.

The last four weeks have been super emotional for me. I feel my husband and I met a tipping point that made us realize how miserable and unhappy we’ve been by our own stubborn actions that we both take complete responsibility for. Not him cheating - that’s on him but it took both for us to get where we were. It made us realize so much but also that we truly still love each other. It doesn’t take away all the hurt and distrust I feel among all the other emotional roller coaster feelings but we know that we want to fight for us before we give up.
I never saw the communication between them as he deleted as he went so he knew what he was doing. He did reach out to her the next day after and told her I found out. She knew I was watching because she acted so dumb. At first she was like: Huh? Then when husband spelled it out that I saw everything, she wrote back. “what the hell? My husband didn’t mind.”
Then he said I knew about all the messages in detail and that he was breaking all contact and chooses me. And she didn’t flinch. She just said “of course you choose her. I’m not planning on leaving my husband either”
That was how it was left between them.
She knew I never saw those emails so she continued to act innocent because I did text them both together and made things a 100% clear that if they so much as cross each other again they will get outed to everyone including our children. Her response was so innocent on how some dumb messages ruined our friendship, blah blah blah. But it was more then that. She contacted my husband while I was in the car next to her and then she straight up messed with him in front of my face. Then acts like she remembers nothing and it wasn’t a big deal.
Of course you can imagine the situation now. I have to deal with her because I don’t want to break a wonderful and long friendship these two little ones have because their parents chose to make a seriously bad choice. Now I’m the one stuck with her mom and scheduling play dates. It’s killing me. Mostly because she’s so brazen she drops her off at my door and starts chatting with me as if we were bff’s. I’m trying to be super business and she’s always putting stupid jokes and acting like nothing ever happened. I can’t stand it and I don’t know what to do. I know what I should do, but I can’t get myself to separate the girls.
I so want to seriously confront her with words in a way that would knock her senseless but I don’t want to give her that satisfaction.
My husband is an idiot - not going to sugar coat that one bit. We have tons to work through and the trust is out the window. Their is no way but to try and trust him because if he wants to see her their a million ways they can do it. I can set boundless and a leash but at the end of the day I can’t keep track a 100%. Especially not in this day and age. That whole process is a category of its own, but constantly reminded because I have to deal with her is killing me. She has no remorse. Obviously her husband doesn’t care or he’s one of “those” guys that like to watch. No clue, don’t care. I’m trying to get my daughter to just make some more new friends but those girls are loyal to each other. Every time I have to hear their names or one of them brings up her mom, I want to scream.
You are making excuses

1. Your WH is not an idiot, he chose to **** where he eats!
2. You are choosing to continue to communicate with her. What are you teaching your kids ffs! Get new friends for your kids.
3. Tell her you do not want to see her ever again and to GTF of your property or you will call the cops.
4. Tell her **** for brains H everything and expose her and your WH.
5. If you do not do these things the whole thing willl blow up in your face.
6AND giving your WH a 'get out of jail free' card is definitely doing to blow up as this is simply you rug sweeping.
Cut all of this out NOW and do the right thing.
WH needs to make reparation for what he has done, otherwise, seek legal advice. You must act as if you are willing to lose this marriage to save it.
 
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