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Hi, brand new here...been lurking around for some time and finally decided to join. Here is my story, i will try to keep itas short as possible.
I have been married for 12 years for a woman I always lovedwith all my heart. We have two beautiful kids, 4&6. The marriage was better than average. We never fought or argued much. Sex was ok, nothing special, just average. We are both in our mid 30,s. We both have nice jobs, were making decent money...vacationed a lot....it was nice. In Marc my, now ex, wife told me she wants a divorce...It was a big shock to me. For the previous three weeks she was working a lot....during the day her regular job, and in the evenings working on her MLM business (pyramid scheme). In those three weeks we got disconnected and grew apart. I know its short amount of time to grow apart, but we did. Two weeks later I found out she is seeing someone else, a married man. It hurt like hell. I confronted her nicely, without any anger or yelling. She admitted to EA and sent him a text right away saying they have to end it. I contacted OM's wife....both my ex and OM were pissed about this. One week later she moves out with the kids to her parents house. Another devastating day for me. I did everything wrong the first two months...cried, begged....we did try to reconcile twice...both times it lasted a week. I just didnt see anything from her. We had a great sex those two weeks....but still nothing. Had one MC and she did not want to go any more. Said she is done and can not give it another try.
In the meantime she said a lod of things that didnt make much sense to me. Saying she was not happy for 12 years...cant remember any good moments...that i killed all emontions and love in her...I guess the typical stuff. We filed for divorce together and it was done rather quick. She got the custody of the kids, 50-50 parenting time....child support. Even during the separation and divorce we did not fight or argue.
The divorce was final 3 weeks ago, and I find myself constantly thinking about reconciliation. We do not talk much, only when it's about the kids. No talk about past, future or anything else. I can say we are being very civil. I have been going out with some friends, going to gym, taking care of myself. Did a complete 180, even beforeI heard about it. I do not know if she is still seeing OM. I do not ask her.
I want to get back with her....i still love her very much, even after all the things she said and done. I just dont know how to approach it. Wait for it? Talk to her? Any word of advice or encouragment?
Thank you
I have been married for 12 years for a woman I always lovedwith all my heart. We have two beautiful kids, 4&6. The marriage was better than average. We never fought or argued much. Sex was ok, nothing special, just average. We are both in our mid 30,s. We both have nice jobs, were making decent money...vacationed a lot....it was nice. In Marc my, now ex, wife told me she wants a divorce...It was a big shock to me. For the previous three weeks she was working a lot....during the day her regular job, and in the evenings working on her MLM business (pyramid scheme). In those three weeks we got disconnected and grew apart. I know its short amount of time to grow apart, but we did. Two weeks later I found out she is seeing someone else, a married man. It hurt like hell. I confronted her nicely, without any anger or yelling. She admitted to EA and sent him a text right away saying they have to end it. I contacted OM's wife....both my ex and OM were pissed about this. One week later she moves out with the kids to her parents house. Another devastating day for me. I did everything wrong the first two months...cried, begged....we did try to reconcile twice...both times it lasted a week. I just didnt see anything from her. We had a great sex those two weeks....but still nothing. Had one MC and she did not want to go any more. Said she is done and can not give it another try.
In the meantime she said a lod of things that didnt make much sense to me. Saying she was not happy for 12 years...cant remember any good moments...that i killed all emontions and love in her...I guess the typical stuff. We filed for divorce together and it was done rather quick. She got the custody of the kids, 50-50 parenting time....child support. Even during the separation and divorce we did not fight or argue.
The divorce was final 3 weeks ago, and I find myself constantly thinking about reconciliation. We do not talk much, only when it's about the kids. No talk about past, future or anything else. I can say we are being very civil. I have been going out with some friends, going to gym, taking care of myself. Did a complete 180, even beforeI heard about it. I do not know if she is still seeing OM. I do not ask her.
I want to get back with her....i still love her very much, even after all the things she said and done. I just dont know how to approach it. Wait for it? Talk to her? Any word of advice or encouragment?
Thank you