Hi again
I have posted my story on TAM. quick update. Married almost 2 and half years and together 3 and half. H is 42 and I am 36 and we have a two year old.
Issue is my husband came out in April that he lost attraction to me yet he can't pin down why, just feels obligated to everything. We started MC back in June and our relationship, in terms of communication, as greatly improved and we are back on good terms of working together in our marriage. We have no financial issues and both work full time while raising our child. I have since gotten back in gym and am focusing on making myself happy as well while fighting for my marriage. Note: i am 3 pounds heavier than when we met. ISSUE still remains that does not feel attracted to me and thus we have not had sex in 3 months.
There is some back history to this as my husband has shared that he left his first marriage due to loss of attraction, 10 years ago, but he pinned that down to boredom in relationship. This time he just can't seem to pin it down and I almost feel like he has everything he wants in this marriage and yet he still can't be happy. Our sex life was great before it dwindled about 2 years into it.
He keeps telling me how he loves me and wants to make this work. Yet I feel like he is not able to do the work to connect the dots in counseling and is stuck on "not attracted to you." i love him and our family yet I can't live like this as it will eat alive my soul!
How long do you give for those feelings to come back? Any advice.
Also I am positive no cheating involved or heavy porn use.
I have posted my story on TAM. quick update. Married almost 2 and half years and together 3 and half. H is 42 and I am 36 and we have a two year old.
Issue is my husband came out in April that he lost attraction to me yet he can't pin down why, just feels obligated to everything. We started MC back in June and our relationship, in terms of communication, as greatly improved and we are back on good terms of working together in our marriage. We have no financial issues and both work full time while raising our child. I have since gotten back in gym and am focusing on making myself happy as well while fighting for my marriage. Note: i am 3 pounds heavier than when we met. ISSUE still remains that does not feel attracted to me and thus we have not had sex in 3 months.
There is some back history to this as my husband has shared that he left his first marriage due to loss of attraction, 10 years ago, but he pinned that down to boredom in relationship. This time he just can't seem to pin it down and I almost feel like he has everything he wants in this marriage and yet he still can't be happy. Our sex life was great before it dwindled about 2 years into it.
He keeps telling me how he loves me and wants to make this work. Yet I feel like he is not able to do the work to connect the dots in counseling and is stuck on "not attracted to you." i love him and our family yet I can't live like this as it will eat alive my soul!
How long do you give for those feelings to come back? Any advice.
Also I am positive no cheating involved or heavy porn use.