I have been having a lot of trouble in my marriage for the last several years due to excessive drinking on H's part and several incidents where he has ended up calling prostitutes, having phone sex, online sex ads, not coming home, lies lies lies... the works. If anyone cares, I wrote a post about it yesterday.
Anyways, my question is how do you manage to stick to your decision to divorce? Last year I found an ad for a divorce seminar and I went. It cost $125 but there was a judge, a mediator, a lawyer, a shrink, etc there. It was very informative. I went alone but I noticed that some people attended with the spouse they were planning on divorcing.
How do people keep themselves from going back and forth between I want to divorce or not? I believe it is the best choice for me, and the only way to guarantee my husband doesn't walk all over me again. Of course things are not bad 24/7, How do people find the patience to stick to their guns and not say, well..he's been good for two months..maybe he has changed...? And those sort of thoughts.