Your husband should want to be actively involved in his household, that is, if he's apart of that household. Cycles are apart of life--there are going to be ups, downs, and flat lines. What married people must do is learn to navigate through these times as a team or unit w/o blaming, using guilt/manipulation/intimidation to gain the upper hand on the other. Let me use a simple sports analogy. Teams play to win. Teams must work together to win a game. Sometimes there will be factors that might work against that team yet they practice to win. When that teams works together as a unit they may overcome teams that should defeat them. Even if the team looses, that team still has the opportunity to become better by switching up practice styles and strategies. You see when a team plays to win, they can't allow circumstance to overshadow their goal of winning. This is precisely what a couple must do in a marital relationship.
To answer your question, perhaps the co-coaches of the team need to have a strategy meeting to assess their approach to winning. Sometimes, the coaches think they're on their own when they have support. It's time to take it to the locker room w/a coaches meeting. Don't tell him what to do or how he should do it. Present what must be done and assess strategies to allow the household to be victorious. I know all of this is easier said than done. While I was married, my husband wouldn't want to come to the meeting; because he didn't desire to be there. Hope this insight helps.
TheEruditeOne