My husband has been pushing very hard for me to be a SAHW. A little history I went to school to get a degree after years at a miserable factory type job. I quit and started in the medical field. My husband did not want me to stay home then, and required that I pay my share for things, even though I brought home and still bring home 1/4 of his salary. I no longer pay for his home loan, or utilities, I buy all my own groceries. He has been pushing since i started in the medical field 6 years ago to not work. We do not have children. He knows that I throughly enjoy my job. It has never felt like work. I do sometimes have long hours and due to our work schedules we do have days that we do not see eachother. He has become very resentful of me working. I have cut back to part time and was only working 3 days a week. He would consistently stay late at work on my days off, come home to tired to engage. Our sex life decreased though he said prior that we didn't have sex enough. Now here I was pushing for sex, spending time and he would blow me off. A year goes by and now works a completely opposite shift of mine now. He says since he is the bread winner my job is not important and I should quit to see him. He also says he doesn't have enough time prior to work to even engage so that would leave me staying up after midnight to see him. I would have to rely solely on him for any purchasing and I feel that he would question every purchase I make. I have no family or friends close by and feel I would be isolated. I come from a trauma background and am distrusting of things in general. I'm concerned that it might be a factor of him wanting to be completely in control. Any thoughts from men and women out there.