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I have been seeing a few posts here on TAM about Stay At Home Dads who are dissatisfied.
As usual there are arguments on both sides of the gender divide. Women love the idea, but even those men who are themselves SAHD's appear to be either nonchalant, stigmatised or dissatisfied.
They never seem excited about it.
I have known a few cases in real life where it did not work well and ended in separation and divorce .
Only two cases I personally know where this arrangement has worked well.
So my questions are directed to the SAHD on TAM;
1]What has been your experience, is it positive?
2]What has been the reaction you get from other people regarding your choice to stay at home and allow your wife to become the breadwinner of the family?
3]What has been your wife's reaction. Do you think she looks at you and respects you the same as before?
4]Is being a stay at home dad as fulfilling to you as going out , working and providing for your family?
5]Is there a power differential in your marriage, and who usually has the final say when serious decisions are to be taken and there is an impasse ?
6]being a stay at home dad have an effect on your sex life, if so how?
I would like to have ladies input / point of view as well.
The main purpose of the post is to get a general idea of how men feel about it versus what women think ,
And why.
As usual there are arguments on both sides of the gender divide. Women love the idea, but even those men who are themselves SAHD's appear to be either nonchalant, stigmatised or dissatisfied.
They never seem excited about it.
I have known a few cases in real life where it did not work well and ended in separation and divorce .
Only two cases I personally know where this arrangement has worked well.
So my questions are directed to the SAHD on TAM;
1]What has been your experience, is it positive?
2]What has been the reaction you get from other people regarding your choice to stay at home and allow your wife to become the breadwinner of the family?
3]What has been your wife's reaction. Do you think she looks at you and respects you the same as before?
4]Is being a stay at home dad as fulfilling to you as going out , working and providing for your family?
5]Is there a power differential in your marriage, and who usually has the final say when serious decisions are to be taken and there is an impasse ?
6]being a stay at home dad have an effect on your sex life, if so how?
I would like to have ladies input / point of view as well.
The main purpose of the post is to get a general idea of how men feel about it versus what women think ,
And why.