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from my other posts, we've had our troubles like others here on this forum. the other day I was talking about how we have both gotten to a point where we agree we are no longer in love with each other, but still love each other as the joint parents of one of our kids.
the last 3 days have been questionable - she agreed to still go up to my family's house for Thanksgiving which is a 9 hour drive.
(guess i'll find out quick if she or her friends also read this forum)
tonight she made plans with her girlfriend to go see a movie - they hadn't spent much time together in the last few months due to various reasons. she gets home at midnight, and i wake up hearing her come in the house. she goes to sleep in her sons room - he's out at a buddy's house for the night.
there were a few things that happened that had me wondering if she was really with her friend or a guy - she says they bought their tickets to the movie and then gave them away so they could talk instead.
i'm not real positive that i even care what she was up too. one part of me does, and the other is glad that she's out with her friend.
so i do agree with her, that we should get divorced. the toughest part though (as others have this same issue) is seeing her everyday until we can get a separation agreement and one of us can move out - which will likely be me, though neither of us can afford to stay in the house financially.
for me, it's the immediate upset stomach i usually deal with immediately after a break up. i know it will get easier, but that takes time. i know we are making the right choice, but i still get stomach issues. i'm even working out almost every morning (at home) and have tried the 180 - though i admit it's not working.
the other issue for me, our son is 4 and it's the same age i was when my parents divorced.
the last 3 days have been questionable - she agreed to still go up to my family's house for Thanksgiving which is a 9 hour drive.
(guess i'll find out quick if she or her friends also read this forum)
tonight she made plans with her girlfriend to go see a movie - they hadn't spent much time together in the last few months due to various reasons. she gets home at midnight, and i wake up hearing her come in the house. she goes to sleep in her sons room - he's out at a buddy's house for the night.
there were a few things that happened that had me wondering if she was really with her friend or a guy - she says they bought their tickets to the movie and then gave them away so they could talk instead.
i'm not real positive that i even care what she was up too. one part of me does, and the other is glad that she's out with her friend.
so i do agree with her, that we should get divorced. the toughest part though (as others have this same issue) is seeing her everyday until we can get a separation agreement and one of us can move out - which will likely be me, though neither of us can afford to stay in the house financially.
for me, it's the immediate upset stomach i usually deal with immediately after a break up. i know it will get easier, but that takes time. i know we are making the right choice, but i still get stomach issues. i'm even working out almost every morning (at home) and have tried the 180 - though i admit it's not working.
the other issue for me, our son is 4 and it's the same age i was when my parents divorced.