[amorous_1]

Occasionally my wife wants me to thrust hard and fast but I can't seem to do it for long, continuously, without going over the edge. I have read suggestions about slowing down, pulling out and squeezing the tip. Both of these methods only help for 1 minute max before I am having problems again and they disrupt the pace my wife wants me to maintain. I have tried thinking about disgusting images, bank accounts, etc. but again the thrusting becomes to much. I hate condoms and the gels. Not digging either of those ideas much. I have read about trying other positions but every one we get into that she wants it hard and fast in seems to do the same thing to me. If I masturbate earlier in the evening it doesn't seem to help much and if I do it right before we have sex then it makes it hard to get excited for me.

I'm not a two pump chump but I feel kind of disappointed in myself here and am running out of ideas. I can only make it about 3-5 minutes MAX which to me seems pretty damn terrible.

 

[Plan 9 from OS]

Can you maintain your erection after ejaculation? If you can, then you can continue on for awhile longer until your wife reaches her O. If needed, I can continue on for another 3 or 4 minutes after I go.

 

[Caribbean Man]

I agree with plan 9 above.

If your refractory period is short,[ 5 - 10 mins]
You can allow yourself to come, continue making out until you get hard again, and then continue.
But you should communicate this to your partner first so that she knows after the first climax you can still go another round, and she would not be disappointed.

 

[IndyTMI]

Can you maintain your erection after ejaculation? If you can, then you can continue on for awhile longer until your wife reaches her O. If needed, I can continue on for another 3 or 4 minutes after I go.

This. ^^^^^
An old girlfriend from my past would do this to me...make me lose my load and just keep on thrusting until she was done (cowgirl). I was ready to just have my cigarette and fall asleep, but she wasn't about to stop until she had hers. I never knew it was possible to keep going after ejaculation, she proved otherwise.

 

[Maneo]

may not be as satisfying to you but for hard and fast thrusts over a sustained period of time, might consider using a condom which can your sensitivity but prolong what she desires. A steady diet of condom use may not be the solution but use now and then might give her what she desires.

 

[Plan 9 from OS]

This. ^^^^^
An old girlfriend from my past would do this to me...make me lose my load and just keep on thrusting until she was done (cowgirl). I was ready to just have my cigarette and fall asleep, but she wasn't about to stop until she had hers. I never knew it was possible to keep going after ejaculation, she proved otherwise.

My wife occasionally does that to me too. My wife can make it feel like my tallywacker is locked in a vice and that can make me go pretty fast sometimes. When I was younger I could ejaculate twice without uncoupling if I wanted to. I didn't do that very often because it does get a little sensitive after awhile.

 

[amorous_1]

For me it gets soft pretty quick afterwards. I can keep going but within a minute or so it's a semi.

F me. Maybe there isn't much I can do about this then. :/

 

[Caribbean Man]

My wife occasionally does that to me too. My wife can make it feel like my tallywacker is locked in a vice and that can make me go pretty fast sometimes. When I was younger I could ejaculate twice without uncoupling if I wanted to. I didn't do that very often because it does get a little sensitive after awhile.

My wife does the same.
Sometimes after ejaculation, [ if she's on top] she just relax for a few minuted , and then starts squeezing him back to life.
But yes, it takes much longer for a second climax, because it does become a bit too sensitive!

 

[Caribbean Man]

For me it gets soft pretty quick afterwards. I can keep going but within a minute or so it's a semi.

F me. Maybe there isn't much I can do about this then. :/

No sir.

I think the people who answered so far are giving you excellent advice.
You have to work with your wife on this.
It does work.

 

[east2west]

Start with a very slow steady rhythm that you can maintain for some time. You will start to get a tolerance to her stimulation after a little while. Then increase the pace a little bit but keep it steady. Increasing the pace will bring you closer to orgasm but not so much that you actually cum. Then as you continue the same steady pace you will eventually find your orgasm getting farther away again. When you are comfortable increase the pace again. The trick is to start slow enough and give yourself enough time to adapt at each pace, while never slowing down from a pace that you already established.

Eventually you will be pounding the hell out of her if that is what she wants. Just make sure you keep something in reserve for the very end or you might find yourself unable to finish. There is a reason why pornstars always have to finish themselves off at the end of a long scene.

 

[controlledchaos]

As ridiculous as it sounds, I've actually started doing kegels for this
I read it on another extensive thread on the same topic (these two should probably be merged I guess?).

It was a bit of advice there and I read up on it and it seems to be solid advice. It's only been about a week so I don't expect any results yet, but supposedly strengthening the PE muscle [google it] can help with control.

Other than that, one thing we do sometimes is get her off first with other forms of stimulation, and as she's not the multiple O's type of lady, I can then go wild inside her and finish when I please.
It's not ideal, but at least she gets a bit of something out of it.

 

[kingsfan]

If it's occassionally she wants this, why not just use the gels or condoms occassionally when she wants it like that? If you can get a clue she wants something longer/harder, gear up ahead of time for her.

 

[controlledchaos]

If it's occassionally she wants this, why not just use the gels or condoms occassionally when she wants it like that? If you can get a clue she wants something longer/harder, gear up ahead of time for her.

She's not a fan of the condoms. Mood killer. I don't mind so much personally.

Re. the creams, it's honestly not SUCH an issue that I would go to the lengths of rubbing something on me to desensitize my goods.

Call me old fashioned but I'd be a little afraid of trying that, and she'd freak out if it things went on for toooooo long and I couldn't produce the money shot.

 

[WyshIknew]

As ridiculous as it sounds, I've actually started doing kegels for this
I read it on another extensive thread on the same topic (these two should probably be merged I guess?).

It was a bit of advice there and I read up on it and it seems to be solid advice. It's only been about a week so I don't expect any results yet, but supposedly strengthening the PE muscle [google it] can help with control.

Other than that, one thing we do sometimes is get her off first with other forms of stimulation, and as she's not the multiple O's type of lady, I can then go wild inside her and finish when I please.
It's not ideal, but at least she gets a bit of something out of it.

Not sure about others but what I have found with kegels is that they do not stop the orgasm but lock it away. I can then have a full orgasm later. However I do sometimes find that doing that can leave an uncomfortable 'sore' feeling in the 'pipes' the next day.
For that reason I do prefer to just hold back as best as I can.

But agree, Mrs Wysh also has this thing about maintaining a steady rhythm in the same position, especially for seconds or thirds but it is so damn difficult at times.

 

[Plan 9 from OS]

My wife does the same.
Sometimes after ejaculation, [ if she's on top] she just relax for a few minuted , and then starts squeezing him back to life.
But yes, it takes much longer for a second climax, because it does become a bit too sensitive!

This Sat AM the wife and I had some hot sex. After I ejaculated, my wife wanted rubbed so I stood up next to the bed while she lied on her back so that I can rub her clit and play with her breasts. She started stroking me and I got very close to a full erection in about 1 - 2 min after I got off. Sorry for being so graphic, but I encourage the OP to give this a try.

I'd try either having spooning sex, have her lay on her stomach and enter her or doggie style. After you're done, have her start stroking you again to get you hard and then go to town on her in missionary. Or...do whatever positions you want but at least try to let the missus get you back up there after the first time you ejaculate and go for round 2.

 

[Woodchuck]

Occasionally my wife wants me to thrust hard and fast but I can't seem to do it for long, continuously, without going over the edge. I have read suggestions about slowing down, pulling out and squeezing the tip. Both of these methods only help for 1 minute max before I am having problems again and they disrupt the pace my wife wants me to maintain. I have tried thinking about disgusting images, bank accounts, etc. but again the thrusting becomes to much. I hate condoms and the gels. Not digging either of those ideas much. I have read about trying other positions but every one we get into that she wants it hard and fast in seems to do the same thing to me. If I masturbate earlier in the evening it doesn't seem to help much and if I do it right before we have sex then it makes it hard to get excited for me.

I'm not a two pump chump but I feel kind of disappointed in myself here and am running out of ideas. I can only make it about 3-5 minutes MAX which to me seems pretty damn terrible.

A good friend taught me about masturbation at age 6...I have been doing it ever since......I would cum so quickly I started changing tempo, pressure, etc to make it last longer....By the time I graduated to the real thing, I had really good control, and still do....If she cums in 5 minutes, great, if it takes a half hour or longer...even better.......

To last longer....Practice, practice, practice.....

 

[IndyTMI]

A good friend taught me about masturbation at age 6...I have been doing it ever since......I would cum so quickly I started changing tempo, pressure, etc to make it last longer....By the time I graduated to the real thing, I had really good control, and still do....If she cums in 5 minutes, great, if it takes a half hour or longer...even better.......

To last longer....Practice, practice, practice.....

From what I remember, I masturbated from toddler age. My mother would yell in my room for me to stop wiggling. I humped my diaper on the bed. I masturbated by rubbing/dry humping the bed or pillows. I never touched my penis masturbating until I joined the navy at age 18. Talk about a change in sensation. Once I began using my hand, I can conjure one up on about a minute if I want. Usually, I try to make it last for 4 - 5 mins anyway.

 

[OhGeesh]

Just for the record not everyone has a refractory period of 1-4 minutes.........in fact medically speaking that's almost laughably short!! Most men (younger men) take 15-20 minutes and that usually decreases with age.

So, telling this guy to just keep going etc etc do you really think he hasn't tried that? It goes soft so he stops.......!!

OP-I suggest toys to the equation!!!!

 

[Caribbean Man]

Just for the record not everyone has a refractory period of 1-4 minutes.........in fact medically speaking that's almost laughably short!! Most men (younger men) take 15-20 minutes and that usually decreases with age.

So, telling this guy to just keep going etc etc do you really think he hasn't tried that? It goes soft so he stops.......!!

OP-I suggest toys to the equation!!!!

According to some studies, 18-year-old males have a refractory period of about 15 minutes, while those in their 70s take about 20 hours, with the average for all men being about a half-hour.[9] Although rarer, some males exhibit no refractory period or a refractory period lasting less than 10 seconds.[10] A scientific study to successfully document natural, fully ejaculatory, multiple orgasms in an adult man was conducted at Rutgers University in 1995. During the study, six fully ejaculatory orgasms were experienced in 36 minutes, with no apparent refractory period.[1][11] Later, P. Haake et al. observed a single male individual producing multiple orgasms without elevated prolactin response.[12]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Refractory_period_(sex)


The refractory period
Most men do not know of their changing “Refractory Period” as they age.
And women are not aware of this change in men either. The refractory
period refers to that period of time between one’s last ejaculation at
orgasm and the next.
In a young man in his late teens or early 20s, the refractory period can
be as short as two-five minutes. They can have an ejaculation now and in
five minutes time have yet another orgasm and ejaculation. Frequent bouts
of sexual intercourse culminating in orgasm/ejaculations are therefore
very common when one is young

http://www.antiguaobserver.com/?p=74896

It all depends on your health , level of arousal and your mindset.

I have done it many times in my 20's & 30's, and still do it sometimes though not as often.

 

[amorous_1]

So, telling this guy to just keep going etc etc do you really think he hasn't tried that? It goes soft so he stops.......!!

OP-I suggest toys to the equation!!!!

Exactly I already explained I can't keep going for long after. It's a semi in a minute or so. And it takes a while, long enough to be an issue, before it is ready again. All of the ideas I've seen so far either don't work or are disruptive because they require stop/slow way down or pull it out completely.