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Hi there! My hubby and I are newlyweds. We got married about 7 months ago. I am 20 now and my husband is 31. You might think it's a big age difference, but we don't even notice it in daily life. We met each other online, I even moved to another country for him. Now, cause I was only 18 when I met him I have never slept with anyone else but him. So he obviously has more experience than me, even though he only had sex with two other women before me. My problem is: he is going online on some sex forum to look at other women and I think even chat with them. I have no problems with the fact that he wants to look. I used to, but I have grown up more and I'm ok with it now, knowing it's normal for men, and even for women to watch porn. But I have no idea what he's chatting about with those women. Before, I only saw messages from him sending them things like "I wish I could touch your body." "Hope we can cam some time." and that kind of stuff. I confronted him about it, told him that hurts me and asked him why he is talking to these women. He said he's only joking around, that he knows they won't answer cause they are all bots or something. Yet he has some pics of himself up where he shows his full body, only wearing underwear. I assume that just has something to do with his ego, but I don't understand why because I tell him all the time how good looking and sexy he is. I know he goes on this website when I even just leave the room for a minute. When he knows I'm coming back, he quickly closes it. I even asked him to use this website while I'm beside him, that he doesn't have to hide anything for me and I will know I can trust him with a pc. Now I just wonder if it's cause of our sex life. We have sex once, sometimes twice a week. I try to initiate more often than that. I kiss his neck, rub against him, nibble his ear, to let him know I'm horny. But either he's not getting it or just doesn't feel like making love more than twice a week. Sometimes we even try twice in a row, but he can never come a second time cause he says coming once makes him feel tired and can't do it a second time. I'm also very shy so if you could give me some hints of what to say to him to make him feel horny or something that would be great. Cause I think part of the reason he uses this sex forum is cause we need to spice things up a bit.
 

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i dont feel like what your hubby is doing on-line is normal.
not all guys do this sort of thing when they are in a relationship.
its not healthy for the relationship and i think his actions towards you is proof of that.
this is very early in the relationship for this type of thing to be happening already.
i think you need to talk very seriously with him about this and let him know it really does bother you a lot.
you should not be willing to let him do this, not even when you are present with him at the computer. that will only feed his hunger for it more.
i think for the relationship tom have a chance, you need to demand that these actions stop immediately and he needs to comply.
 

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What he said. Your husband is either cheating on you, or preparing to cheat on you. Even if he's just playing around, it's only a matter of time before someone takes his bait, and offers to meet him. If you want to save your marriage, have some painful discussions about why he's doing this. "I don't know" and "only joking" are NOT acceptable answers.

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"I don't know" and "only joking" are NOT acceptable answers.
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very true.
he is being disrespectful to you.
it can only lead to one place if he doesnt stop, and im sure that place will be a lot more uncomfortable for you than REALLY confronting him about this problem.
 

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A 29 year old man married an 18 year old virgin? What am I missing? Is this a cultural thing?
 

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You are still in the honeymoon phase. There should not be any need to spice things up. Maybe he is addicted to this activity. It is in fact not something you should condone at all. This activity is tantamount to cheating. You need to confront him and make sure this does not continue.
 
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