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Just wondering everyone's thoughts when it comes to "spicing" up sex in the bedroom. It seems like there are a myriad of options, but I can only imagine a few... What do you do to "spice" things up to keep things from being vanilla?
 

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ok, suppose my imagination wasn't really existent... i'm just wondering what everyone's views are of "spicing" things up... i'm sure it''s pretty varied...
 

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Not sure how much these would spice things up but a few of the things we do are:

Mutual masturbation, love this one. It is very intimate and you have to trust your partner but wow the closeness afterwards is fantastic.

Sexting is always a great way to build up anticipation.

A bit of rough play.

Tying the other one up and having your way with them.

OK this is lame but I really like having to have quiet sex, so in a situation where you know others may here you so you have to be quiet. My guy covers my mouth at these times and it is a major turn on for me.

Of course the usual things like different places, times and locations.

I like sex against the wall especially as he is very strong and holds me off the ground.

Mostly we are just spontaneous, no plans, no regular routine it just seems to be different most of the time. Sometimes slow and sexy, other times we are like wild people.
Not sure if that was the sort of stuff you meant?
 

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ok, so what if you have gone the toy route, but it's not enough... what's next really? there is only so much you can do....
 

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Erotic massages with scented oils

Chocolate sauce and whipped cream

New bedroom outfits

Shaving each other

Sex in different places (kitchen table, in the car at a parking lot, etc...)

Just a few things right off the top of my head that I can think of. It doesn't have to be new sex toys, but it could if you want it to be.
 

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Me & my husband were "vanilla" for 19 long years...a few yrs ago, I suddenly realized "Dah, what the hell have we been missing" - I tool the bull by the horns.. and ....

Some of my ideas

1. Yeah, whip cream, chocolate syrup - oral sex, get some flavored lubes Flavored Sex Lubes

2. Try some new toys -lots of reviews on that site

3. Exhaustive sex position guide here - Sex Positions Guide or get a Kama Sutra book

4. Erotic Massage, Oil massage / Bubble baths /candles /music

5. Lingerie - womens lingerie | eBay ~ Role playing nurse outfits, French Maid, some stockings /gloves, heels

6. Rent some Porn - look for the Romantic Porn -the wife may enjoy.

7. Try a sex game - We have this one -There are 100 affectionate cards / 80 intimate cards / 60 passionate cards ~ & Question cards.. Easy, Intimate, and Difficult. Discover Your Lover Adult Board Game Review

8. Could try some >> Liberator - Official Site of Liberator Shapes & Sex Furniture
Could try a "Sex swing".

9. Plan a Romantic vacation together...Revisit an old necking site. Dance to a special love song... revive the memories, with this -you may Up the dopamine -which brings you more emotionally connected. I made a "movie maker video" of our lives together - very touching, threw me over the edge when I played that back. - with a sappy love song.

10. Talk about your fantasies... Flirt /tease each other, build some tension... Flirting, Love, and Sex - How to Flirt with Your Husband or Wife

11. Take a walk on a hiking trail, go off the beaten path ~ act like love starved Teens, get touchy feely in the movie theater in the dark. Try sex all over the house... new memories, any kind of new Novelty is "exciting"...

12. Have your wife cook breakfast in lingerie & heels, do your own private photo shoot... wrap her in "caution" tape.

 

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Me & my husband were "vanilla" for 19 long years...a few yrs ago, I suddenly realized "Dah, what the hell have we been missing" - I tool the bull by the horns.. and ....

Some of my ideas

1. Yeah, whip cream, chocolate syrup - oral sex, get some flavored lubes Flavored Sex Lubes

2. Try some new toys -lots of reviews on that site

3. Exhaustive sex position guide here - Sex Positions Guide or get a Kama Sutra book

4. Erotic Massage, Oil massage / Bubble baths /candles /music

5. Lingerie - womens lingerie | eBay ~ Role playing nurse outfits, French Maid, some stockings /gloves, heels

6. Rent some Porn - look for the Romantic Porn -the wife may enjoy.

7. Try a sex game - We have this one -There are 100 affectionate cards / 80 intimate cards / 60 passionate cards ~ & Question cards.. Easy, Intimate, and Difficult. Discover Your Lover Adult Board Game Review

8. Could try some >> Liberator - Official Site of Liberator Shapes & Sex Furniture
Could try a "Sex swing".

9. Plan a Romantic vacation together...Revisit an old necking site. Dance to a special love song... revive the memories, with this -you may Up the dopamine -which brings you more emotionally connected. I made a "movie maker video" of our lives together - very touching, threw me over the edge when I played that back. - with a sappy love song.

10. Talk about your fantasies... Flirt /tease each other, build some tension... Flirting, Love, and Sex - How to Flirt with Your Husband or Wife

11. Take a walk on a hiking trail, go off the beaten path ~ act like love starved Teens, get touchy feely in the movie theater in the dark. Try sex all over the house... new memories, any kind of new Novelty is "exciting"...

12. Have your wife cook breakfast in lingerie & heels, do your own private photo shoot... wrap her in "caution" tape.

I hope your husband doesn't waste money buying lottery tickets, because clearly he won the lottery already.
 
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May I suggest role play? Get a hotel room, pretend your secretly meeting for a NSA encounter. Incorporate some of the awesome ideas above. Sometimes the tools (toys) or the participants are not the issue but the setting is. Be the secret agent shagging Alotta Fagina or the John meeting his trick or the teacher getting his student to 'earn' an "A". The limits are only dictated by your mind. PS booze never hurts to set the mood.
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For us , spicing things up usually takes place outside of the bedroom.
Most times outside of the house actually.
Ya mon! Ditto that.

We take our minivan and park in out of the way places and have sex in the back seat. Makes driving that beast later with the kids a lot more fun when you look at that back seat and replay the mind movies. The good kind.

We confessed our fantasies to one another during sex. Very spicey.

This is a good book for giving you ideas:
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0974259918/ref=oh_details_o01_s00_i00

Just try stuff. Use your imagination.
 

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ok, so what if you have gone the toy route, but it's not enough... what's next really? there is only so much you can do....
Do a weekend away at one of those 'f**k tub' resorts with the romantic rooms with the indoor pools, saunas, massage tables and jacuzzis.

My wife and I just booked one for next month and I've been stockpiling new DVDs and toys for it. A lot of new stuff and things that we have been speaking about are on the table for that weekend.
 

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Here is what I call spicing it up - thinking of a Spicey vacation -hey we only live once --and women generally love some ROMANCE... - think "atmosphere".... a private pool in your room.. a private hot tub in the woods... oh yeah... Check out my 4th post >>> Pics of our room.....had mirrors on the ceiling too.....

http://talkaboutmarriage.com/long-term-success-marriage/36832-getting-away.html


Hey Kingsfan.... I'll tell my husband your comment tonight , ha ha ....Yeah...he feels this way... but he's had his share of suffering when I was in "Mommy mode"... though he was partly at fault there - being too much of a "Nice guy" puttin' himself down... We've lived & learned... if I can help some avoid our stupid blunders in the sexual... it would make me :).
 

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My wife and I are going away for the week for our 25th anniversary (wow,it's been that long?). One of the things we are doing is taking one night to completely devote to the other sexually. We've each selected a scenario from the book I mentioned above and will spend the evening acting out the scenario. Now I thought that for where my wife and I are sexually the tips in that book were a little on the bland side so I'm using it as a framework to build upon. I'm adding music and choreographing how I will touch her, breath on her, kiss her in time to the music. And yes, there will be some dirty dancing involved. No I can't dance all that well but she doesn't care. The point is she appreciates that I made an effort to make it special for her. The point is I'm thinking it out ahead of time and putting in effort and THAT will make a spices evening for both of us.
 

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A lot of great advice here however these are still so in general of what one's spouse or SO may get excited about ??? I know it may be easier said then done but why not simply ask what makes him or her " tick " ??

Ask " if you we're to masturbate tonight what would be your ' go to ' fantasy ?? " and see if include this fantasy in your intamcy one way or another ?? Good luck !
 
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I just got a card in the mail from BareNecessities.com stating that they are having a 25% off Friends and Family sale...from Oct 3rd thru Oct 8th.

I might be able to find some new "spice up" items for my Princess ...lingerie never hurts in this department. ;)
 

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I hope your husband doesn't waste money buying lottery tickets, because clearly he won the lottery already.
Isn't that the truth! What i would have given for my x wife to have had this attitude. It might have made me seem weird in public, though, because i would probably have walked around looking like the smiling Viagra guy all the time!

 
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