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Hello,
My marriage has become an absolute mess. We are married only in name only. There is no talking, no communication, no sex. We have been together for almost seventeen years, married 12, have 4 kids.
Our marriage has disenegrated because of my inablity to express honestly that my husbands breath stinks. And it has always stank. I've hinted and bought mouth wash and tongue scrapers, etc. But, he has acted like it's no big deal. It doesn't stink all the time, just most of the time.
It's made me back off and not want to kiss or even have him hug me because it's something I brace myself for. So he feels that I don't love him and am pushing him away. He asks why and I just can't bring myself to tell him cause :your damn breath stank and that mess turns me off". I tried discussing this with him a few years back and he told me it hurt his feelings, well damn, it hurts my feelings too cause not only are you not kissing and snuggling. I ain't either.
Push came to shove this past weekend, had a blow out arguement and he throws it out there that I make him feel like he is a leper or something because, I have moved out of the bedroom and when he touches me to hug me I push him away. I said because your breath smells and it turns my stomach. And he's like, yeah right, that's the reason????
I am not shallow and I love my husband, but this breath thing has messed up intimacy and made us just roommates. I don't know what else to do. I'm so danged hurt.
My marriage has become an absolute mess. We are married only in name only. There is no talking, no communication, no sex. We have been together for almost seventeen years, married 12, have 4 kids.
Our marriage has disenegrated because of my inablity to express honestly that my husbands breath stinks. And it has always stank. I've hinted and bought mouth wash and tongue scrapers, etc. But, he has acted like it's no big deal. It doesn't stink all the time, just most of the time.
It's made me back off and not want to kiss or even have him hug me because it's something I brace myself for. So he feels that I don't love him and am pushing him away. He asks why and I just can't bring myself to tell him cause :your damn breath stank and that mess turns me off". I tried discussing this with him a few years back and he told me it hurt his feelings, well damn, it hurts my feelings too cause not only are you not kissing and snuggling. I ain't either.
Push came to shove this past weekend, had a blow out arguement and he throws it out there that I make him feel like he is a leper or something because, I have moved out of the bedroom and when he touches me to hug me I push him away. I said because your breath smells and it turns my stomach. And he's like, yeah right, that's the reason????
I am not shallow and I love my husband, but this breath thing has messed up intimacy and made us just roommates. I don't know what else to do. I'm so danged hurt.