So I came across this post today on a blog and I think men need to understand this stuff. Read the comments as well. This will probably be a difficult read for some but I think it's important for guys stuck in this situation to understand - AND ASK YOUR WIFE POINT BLANK if she feels that way.
If you read the comments it become clear that lots of these women don't even think about the loss that there husbands face by being married to them. They pat themselves on the back for keeping their family together while talking about the great sacrifice they made just by allowing themselves to be touched. I don't know about you, but if my wife felt this way about me I would want to know so I could divorce her.
What is profound is how many women say I marred him because he was a good man but I had to psych myself up to have sex with him. What a terribly unfair and gross thing to do to someone, yet they write about it like it's badge of honor. It's an interesting window into how some women think. I read about 200 comments and not ONE said anything about how their husband would feel. No guilt, nothing. It's like is an appliance and he is SO LUCKY TO HAVE THE PRIVILEGE TO BE WITH HER. There seems to be no recognition that this guy could have met someone else who was into him.
One of the most illuminating things that I have learned from reading on these sites for the past years is how clear it is that LOTS of women do not even acknowledge men as emotional human beings. They just completely discount their agency, and are not even hide it. They write about it in glowing terms because they are so oblivious to it. They are just seen as tools by so many of these people.
The other thing is how so many of the posters point to a past history of abuse.
Now there are many reasons for why you might be in a Dead Bedroom situation, a big part of which might be how you treat your wife emotionally. That being said I think this is also what a lot of guys are facing in Dead Bedroom situations and as painful as it is if you want better you have to face it. I think young men should also read this stuff so they can look for red flags. Nothing is worse then only being chosen for your stability.
I Love My Husband But I'm Not Sexually Attracted to Him
If you read the comments it become clear that lots of these women don't even think about the loss that there husbands face by being married to them. They pat themselves on the back for keeping their family together while talking about the great sacrifice they made just by allowing themselves to be touched. I don't know about you, but if my wife felt this way about me I would want to know so I could divorce her.
What is profound is how many women say I marred him because he was a good man but I had to psych myself up to have sex with him. What a terribly unfair and gross thing to do to someone, yet they write about it like it's badge of honor. It's an interesting window into how some women think. I read about 200 comments and not ONE said anything about how their husband would feel. No guilt, nothing. It's like is an appliance and he is SO LUCKY TO HAVE THE PRIVILEGE TO BE WITH HER. There seems to be no recognition that this guy could have met someone else who was into him.
One of the most illuminating things that I have learned from reading on these sites for the past years is how clear it is that LOTS of women do not even acknowledge men as emotional human beings. They just completely discount their agency, and are not even hide it. They write about it in glowing terms because they are so oblivious to it. They are just seen as tools by so many of these people.
The other thing is how so many of the posters point to a past history of abuse.
Now there are many reasons for why you might be in a Dead Bedroom situation, a big part of which might be how you treat your wife emotionally. That being said I think this is also what a lot of guys are facing in Dead Bedroom situations and as painful as it is if you want better you have to face it. I think young men should also read this stuff so they can look for red flags. Nothing is worse then only being chosen for your stability.
I Love My Husband But I'm Not Sexually Attracted to Him
