Someone will know who I am talking about. That guy needs a reality check and some good advice, not this wishy-washy **** he is getting.
That is all.
That is all.
This is Thumos. Yes, the actual one from SI, not a sock puppet. You have no way of knowing that, obviously, other than tells like the way I write. Anyway, let the 2x4’s commence.Someone will know who I am talking about. That guy needs a reality check and some good advice, not this wishy-washy **** he is getting.
That is all.
Those actions (by themselves) are really pretty damn bad, and you have only discovered the tip of the iceberg of infidelity.She refused to let me see the texts between them.
my wife at first tried to minimize this as a 6-week affair, but the text and phone call records indicate it was a 3-month affair
she’d brought OM over to our house for dinner almost “playing house” several times during the affair while I was out of town
My wife went on hard mode gaslighting me
She failed the polygraph
It’s a little daunting to have to recreate all the information from my SI thread, so I’ll just let it suffice to say that she has shown what many consider to be remorseful behavior and has done many things over and above what even “remorseful” spouses do. This is over and against her other behaviors and words. The two sets of facts conflict with each other, like a person really at war with themselves. I think a lot of posters at SI find my situation with her confounding bc she doesn't line up with the usual suspects very well.Based solely on that information that you have disclosed on this site, your wife has outrageously cheated on you, and has compounded that betrayal exponentially by lying to you (more than) blatantly. She has betrayed you and your children. You do not indicate that she has shown ANY remorse or done anything to indicate that she is even committed to the marriage going forward. What are her "whys"?
I have to agree with this. I feel terrible for him. His wife actually hit him on the head the other day accusing HIM of being unfaithful, and now he may have a detached retina as a result. So physical abuse on top of mental and emotional and psychological abuse. I'm a Christian, too, and frankly I think that plays into far too many "false R" situations. I think unfortunately many evangelical circles have gone over to the "feminist" side of things and are leaving men out in the cold when it comes to dealing with female infidelity.Tbh, I think 36yearsgone aka "The Masochistic Christian" is in more of a need of a reality check than Thumos is. But then, I'm virtually certain 36 is a lost cause. Oh well. Hope his virtuousness continues to sustain him.
Chump Lady would have a field day with the first paragraph I've quoted. Have you checked out her blog? Her mantra is, Leave a Cheater gain a life. I urge you to do some reading there.For example, she tried to say I was "sexually immature" because I couldn't understand that it was just "meaningless sex" with her AP. Or she said once that the texts were "private." Just a sample.
And she’s done a lot to emphasize the clear suspicion she’s not being fully truthful and transparent by burying evidence, dragging her feet on the polygraph, failing the polygraph and more.
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So there's a chance she's telling the truth. feels "obligated" in some ways to try to reconcile.
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But I also want to be truthful here: I have prayed occasionally for a mulligan, like I catch her up to no good again, so I can just walk with a "clean conscience."
Of COURSE she failed it. Cheaters are notorious liars and they have one job when they get caught - and Job #1 is damage control. That's accomplished by lying, denying, minimizing, gaslighting, more lying, more denying, and a whole lot of empty promises she made about how she'd cut off contact with lover boy and everything else.She failed the polygraph. Definitive fail according to the examiner. I didn’t get a parking lot confession.