Most days through our R are ok things go along good times mixed in with some sad but every so often there is a sense of dread that feeling that this will never go away never get better. I look at her if I can and just get that feeling anger disgust hopelessness, I touch her and I swear I feel his hands where he touched her. These feelings usually go away within a day or so, and when she asks me what is wrong how do I tell her, to drag her down and take away the hope she has is wrong. Please let me clarify I do want to work this out, I have committed to making us better stronger if possible, but she doesn't seem to understand how the ugly stuff can come out like this. I guess the length of time this takes may not seem real to them, even with her remorsefulness and the hard work she does I can see this being a raw nerve for a very long time.