So, my husband is in the military and I have two jobs. He makes plans with his "buddies" and their families and forgets to tell me about them until it is too late to get the time off to join. I feel left out and horrible because even when I do get off of work in time to be with other people outside of work and him, he always has to ask if I can come over or join in the events. His friends or their wives/girlfriends/etc. do not talk to me unless we are there and they ask him for "us" to come over. They have my number and I am always polite. When I talk to him about it all he can say is he is sorry and that he don't know why it is like that because from his view I'm not rude or a "*****" and just not realizing it.
He suggested finding other couples to become friends with but I don't even know how to go about doing that.
I just feel like I'm not liked by these people who he works with and their families and I am not understanding why it seems like I am purposely being left out of plans and activities.
Am I being over emotional about this? It has been going on for like three months now and I often take the first step in texting or calling to see how they are doing and if I can come over for a little bit before work and I either get no answer or I get "I'm going to take a nap" or "I'm going to do housework". It's almost as like they are only willing to put up with me if they want my husband around. (It's both his friends (Male) and their families)
Any advise will be appreciated.
He suggested finding other couples to become friends with but I don't even know how to go about doing that.
I just feel like I'm not liked by these people who he works with and their families and I am not understanding why it seems like I am purposely being left out of plans and activities.
Am I being over emotional about this? It has been going on for like three months now and I often take the first step in texting or calling to see how they are doing and if I can come over for a little bit before work and I either get no answer or I get "I'm going to take a nap" or "I'm going to do housework". It's almost as like they are only willing to put up with me if they want my husband around. (It's both his friends (Male) and their families)
Any advise will be appreciated.