[ReidWright]

first off, stop accusing him...soft confronts never work. If he's a cheater; he's a liar.

as for the phone, he might be deleting messages. find an undelete program (wondershare, etc) and see if that's what is happening.

I guess he could of been doing a 'posh wank' to use the condom himself, but yeah, sketchy stuff will require more evidence gathering.