I just recently found out my husband and best friend cheated on me. He had been laid off for two years and finally got a job traveling for three months with another one of our friends. We have three children 2, 5, 7 and have been married for 8 years. To further complicate things we have been living together for almost 13 years, happily i thought. While he was out of town working he would go weeks without calling me or the kids. I knew something was wrong but i was at home with our three kids. When he came home i knew something was wrong...i know him and just knew. We were in the process of shortsaleing our home and trying to find a new place to live and he kept telling me we would talk after we moved. The night we moved i broke down and hacked his phone and google account. I found pictures of the OW on his phone. I checked my cell records because i never do...i have e-bills. I was shocked to see three months of phone/text/pictures from the OW. So i confronted him and he finally fessed up to having a ONS after only being gone two weeks. Instead of feeling remorseful he continued this EA for THREE MONTHS!!! I think the only thing that stopped him was me catching him. After the big confession i told him he needed to call her with me so i could hear with my own ears it was over. Instead he called her the next time i went to work, which opened up a whole other level of betrayal. Which led to me calling her and going off on her. At this point his phone number has been changed, we have both been tested for stds-negative thank god!!! He says he wants to be with me and work on it but i just don't know. I feel like the one person i have always counted on since i was 18(i am 32 now) is someone else. He says he loves me and wants to be with me but i feel like his actions are speaking louder. Help??