My wife and I have been married over ten years and have three children (11, 9, 7). Over the past year or two she’s been going through what I would call a mid-life crisis. After focusing on the kids so much while they were young she is now trying to find a new meaning for herself as they don’t need that support as much. Anyway, needless to say, our relationship has been on an up and down rollercoaster during this time.
And while that’s true, I never really suspected that she would be cheating on me until recently, when I happened to come across texts on her phone from one of her previous co-workers where she said things like “I miss you”. I thought that was odd but not proof of anything as they did have a close working relationship and she’s been unhappy with her job lately.
Anyways, my suspicion antenna went up and I started to pry into things more, looking at her texts daily (or when I could unnoticed) and looking at her text log online (no message content, just a log the time a text was sent/received and from who).
So here is what I found: of the 478 texts she’s sent/received over the past month, 213 were between her and this guy. The next runner up, her closest girlfriend, was at 78. Hmmm….
And I didn’t find any texts on her phone for a while (she must have been deleting them), until this past week (I took pictures of them for my records):
First texts:
Him: I have a meeting at 3:30, but you could come visit from 2:45-3:30
Her: I can’t visit today, I have stuff to do. Perhaps wed or thur?
Texts from the next day:
Her: Sneaking out of work is proving to be very difficult this year. Uhg. Sorry… … sucks.
Him: Hmmmm….
Her: Mad?
Him: Of course not! You still may deserve a punishment though.
Her: Nice!!!
Him: I suggest you sneak out for an hour.
Her: I wish, I’m still at work.
At this point, I’m pretty sure they’re having an affair. But I feel like I need more evidence before I confront her. I’m thinking of putting tracking/spy software on her cell phone.
Any advice? I’m pretty mad and upset and this whole thing is making me a mess inside. I feel like I need to talk to her about it, but I think I should get more evidence first. But even that is killing me!
And while that’s true, I never really suspected that she would be cheating on me until recently, when I happened to come across texts on her phone from one of her previous co-workers where she said things like “I miss you”. I thought that was odd but not proof of anything as they did have a close working relationship and she’s been unhappy with her job lately.
Anyways, my suspicion antenna went up and I started to pry into things more, looking at her texts daily (or when I could unnoticed) and looking at her text log online (no message content, just a log the time a text was sent/received and from who).
So here is what I found: of the 478 texts she’s sent/received over the past month, 213 were between her and this guy. The next runner up, her closest girlfriend, was at 78. Hmmm….
And I didn’t find any texts on her phone for a while (she must have been deleting them), until this past week (I took pictures of them for my records):
First texts:
Him: I have a meeting at 3:30, but you could come visit from 2:45-3:30
Her: I can’t visit today, I have stuff to do. Perhaps wed or thur?
Texts from the next day:
Her: Sneaking out of work is proving to be very difficult this year. Uhg. Sorry… … sucks.
Him: Hmmmm….
Her: Mad?
Him: Of course not! You still may deserve a punishment though.
Her: Nice!!!
Him: I suggest you sneak out for an hour.
Her: I wish, I’m still at work.
At this point, I’m pretty sure they’re having an affair. But I feel like I need more evidence before I confront her. I’m thinking of putting tracking/spy software on her cell phone.
Any advice? I’m pretty mad and upset and this whole thing is making me a mess inside. I feel like I need to talk to her about it, but I think I should get more evidence first. But even that is killing me!