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He was trying to help with their rebellious son. She took advantage of that.

Whenever she calls about the boy answer, but if she shifts to relationship talk, stop her in her tracks and let her know under no uncertain terms that you are there to co-parent but as a woman you will never pick up what you have thrown away.

Who the freak cares if she is lonely and horny. She can pay an escort if she is that desperate. She piggied off your back for 25 years too long. You will never pick up her piggy ass an hour more...ever!

What a lala land snowflake...sheesh!
 

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So, how does he deny and remove his feelings? How does he vehemently refuse her, when it's so much easier because he knows who she is. Anyone else would be simply another start, another learning curve, another years of miscommunication until they understand each other's language and likely conclusions?

I'm assuming a lot here, so I apologize if these are not some of your sticking points. I hope they aren't.

Edit: please don't tell me all that is fun. It's really not that much fun. It's years of work and compromise until you both move a little toward the middle.
 

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Last year, your ex said “ Someday I’ll tell you the whole truth”. Did she ever tell you whatever the whole truth was?
 

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Last year, your ex said “ Someday I’ll tell you the whole truth”. Did she ever tell you whatever the whole truth was?
If she's anything like my cheating ex the truth will change from day to day.
I realize that it was most likely A narcissist plying one of her narcissist control games, but was worried that she had or still is sleeping with one of his relatives or close friends.
 

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Last year, your ex said “ Someday I’ll tell you the whole truth”. Did she ever tell you whatever the whole truth was?
NO.
I thought about this this morning.
She will, as a last resort, start to spill the beans all over my newly healed soul in an attempt to subdue me into submission and come back.
I think of it like Ted Bundy telling the law he will tell you where more bodies are if you spare his life.
F That!
 

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If the son is an adult or nearly an adult(mid to late teens) you can communicate with him directly. No need for any contact with her.
He's not like that.
He will not answer my texts or phone calls.
Or her texts or calls, for the most part.
He troubled.....:(
 

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Last year, your ex said “ Someday I’ll tell you the whole truth”. Did she ever tell you whatever the whole truth was?
NO.
I thought about this this morning.
She will, as a last resort, start to spill the beans all over my newly healed soul in an attempt to subdue me into submission and come back.
I think of it like Ted Bundy telling the law he will tell you where more bodies are if you spare his life.
F That!
I think you are abso-freaking-Correct about this!

Stay strong and continue to enjoy your new life!
 

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NO.
I thought about this this morning.
She will, as a last resort, start to spill the beans all over my newly healed soul in an attempt to subdue me into submission and come back.
I think of it like Ted Bundy telling the law he will tell you where more bodies are if you spare his life.
F That!
And when she starts cut her off and say, I don't care anymore and then change the subject.

Remember project a reasonable non-selfish motive onto a narcissist at your own peril. They just don't work like that.
 

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The last time my serial cheating ex-husband called up asking me out, we'd been divorced for nearly 2 years and he'd been engaged to his now-wife for at least 3 months....:rolleyes:

I just decided that you can't fix crazy and you can't fix stupid. And, apparently, he's both. :yawn2:
 

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What was your girlfriends reaction to the phone call?
She's quite neurotic, which is fine with me, but no need to tell her.
She would default to "You are going back to her" mode.
 

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The last time my serial cheating ex-husband called up asking me out, we'd been divorced for nearly 2 years and he'd been engaged to his now-wife for at least 3 months....:rolleyes:

I just decided that you can't fix crazy and you can't fix stupid. And, apparently, he's both. :yawn2:
I hope he heard laughter in the distance as you slowly and quietly hung up the phone.
 

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I'd probably bang her a couple times and then say, "eh.... not interested".
Funny, but no, never stick your d*** in crazy. It is an axiom that I have taught my son. From personal experience, watched my best man marry a woman that was clinically bipolar. The manic phase hit, and over the space of a month, she systematically bankrupted him, then when caught, took a bottle of pills. At that point a divorce was the only way out. Marriage lasted less than six months. Bankruptcy took a bit longer.
 
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