have been with my partner for 4 years we have 2 children together and i have 2 from a previous relationship so we have 4 in the house they all consider him dad our youngest is 7 weeks and our oldest 5 nearly 6. The thing I need advice with is it seems he is to touchy to talk to about things lets take today for example we agreed that he would get up to he kids so i can rest and then do some study as im completing a course online. well at 12.30 in the arvo i still heard the kids running around by themselves I came out to see what was happening and found my partner asleep on our oldest bed. leaving the 3 oldest kids to run around all day by themselves the 2 yea old didnt have a nappy or clothes on the other 2 were fighting. I thought i would show my partner love instead of asking him what he was doing I just got up fixed my daughters nappies and clothes did all there hair got them food then turned on some music and danced with them in the kitchen then we picked flowers outside together I did the dishes cleaned up his mess put food away that was left out. Then I set up the hose for them in the backyard and got there bathers for them. I then decided it was time to wake my partner up as it was 2.30 when i woke him up and reminded him off me needing to study he said sure ill watch the kids and then walked out to the lounge room and laid on the couch to go to sleep again. I came in and asked him what was wrong as he has kinda been ignoring the kids today and I dont think as parents thats right. I wanted to know how he was feeling and why he was acting like this so I could help. But he took what I said and started getting mad at me telling me to back off he is watching the kids and that I dont need to bring to his attention what he is doing wrong I kept pleading with him trying to explain thats not what im saying but he got louder and louder then he started to yell at me bout past arguements that i had all ready said sorry for and he had all ready told me he forgives me. He even started having a go at me for talking to our pastor about our problems when my partner rang him up and asked him to come over and talk with us. I was really confused I was trying to understand my partner I wasn't accusing him I only talked to the pastor cause my partner rang him up asking him to come over and talk with us so I thoughts that is what I was meant to do talk. I do not feel like I was been over bearing with how he watched the kids as it is just about everything that happens with the kids is what he wants and I have to shut up if i disagree then there is a huge arguement. I even simply turned the hose on for the kids to let them play with the water and make mud castles he was upset with me for that to. They are kids they should be allowed to play outside and I should be allowed to have a opinon and be a mum I feel like im been run out of my own house. He baths the baby once a week at max its meant to be his job when I tried once to tell him I think the baby should be bathed a bit more than that he told me again if I dont like how hes doing something then for me to bath the baby since I think IM better at it than him
The other day it got so bad I started screaming at him and pushing the coffee table over after begging with him to please stop condemming me over something I never said I feel lonely and hurt
The other day it got so bad I started screaming at him and pushing the coffee table over after begging with him to please stop condemming me over something I never said I feel lonely and hurt