Hi Raffles and welcome. Its sounds like your H is reacting to the recent stressors in his life. A near-death experience, the loss of his bf, these are huge, and combined with a family history of depression, could have sent him into a tailspin into depression. You can't force him to seek help for it. Hopefully he will, but in the meantime, you need to take care of yourself.
Read up on the 180 (just search it here on TAM or google it). Following these strategies will help strengthen you so that, no matter what happens, you will be better able to handle it.
Whatever you do, no more sex. When you provide that you are enabling him to cake eat (have his 'freedom' yet get his physical needs met by the wife he has abandoned). This is not fair to you.
Don't go along with referring to him as your 'ex'. You are still married.
I am concerned that he had you and the children leave the house. It may have been his family's property, but you have some rights here. Talk to a lawyer and find out what they are. I don't want to speculate as to what kind of a man makes his wife and children leave their home. Family property or not, he wants out of the relationship, he should have left.
Are you and the kids getting financial support?
Please find out what your rights are before this goes any further.
Read up on the 180 (just search it here on TAM or google it). Following these strategies will help strengthen you so that, no matter what happens, you will be better able to handle it.
Whatever you do, no more sex. When you provide that you are enabling him to cake eat (have his 'freedom' yet get his physical needs met by the wife he has abandoned). This is not fair to you.
Don't go along with referring to him as your 'ex'. You are still married.
I am concerned that he had you and the children leave the house. It may have been his family's property, but you have some rights here. Talk to a lawyer and find out what they are. I don't want to speculate as to what kind of a man makes his wife and children leave their home. Family property or not, he wants out of the relationship, he should have left.
Are you and the kids getting financial support?
Please find out what your rights are before this goes any further.