Hi, my husband or ex as he insists have been separated for 12 months.. A little background info, 4 yrs ago my husband had serious accident, we nearly lost him, while he was in hospital he lost his bf to cancer. He was basically in hospital for 7 months. He refused counselling in hospital. After he started getting on his feet I noticed small changes in him, he got distant with me, was so angry and he became in my opinion so self absorbed and selfish. Fast tracking two yrs later he was like a different person at times. He had a younger girl working 4 him and I believe maybe an EA was happening. This became a constant fight between us, I was so insecure. Then he was wanting to change his career direction, which I understood on one hand, as his accident was direct result of the at times dangerous job, but on other hand we had made plans, spent money and invested so much time into what we had. This was a dream of his for so long and I couldn't understand his wanting to walk away from it, this of course turned into another battle. In my frustration and desperation I made threats. Anyway he decided that he wanted kids and I to leave his family property where we had lived for almost 16 yrs. I did, I thought he'd quickly come to his senses. But he hasn't. He seems to b enjoying his independence. I get so angry and we fight, which pushes him further away, in the 12 months we have on several occasions been intimate but then he just regresses further.. He's insisting we're through. I keep telling myself that this isn't him, I believe he's going thru mid life crisis or something similar. His childhood wasn't easy, he had and has a mother who suffers from depression and he seemed to take the brunt of responsibility. I don't want to lose him, or our life. We have 3 gorgeous kids who feel their life is torn apart. I know I have to stop harnessing him, but its so hard. I'm scared that if I stop he will move on. I'm so worried that he has feelings for this younger girl, they have so much in common. Actually she kinda reminds me of myself 20 yrs ago, when we were so in love. He has been into life since primary school, I can't imagine my life without him. Does anyone have any advice??