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I would have thought Santa Claus but the name Odin?

Is this what he does every year? 😅
He’s got a huge fascination with all things Nordic so he’s incorporated a norse flair into his Santa. He goes to schools and the homes of special needs kids to be Santa. His costume really is something else, very old style kind of Santa.
 

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The saga continues.

I’ve decided to give it yet another chance with Odin. I may shoot myself for it later but there are to many other good qualities I’m seeing in person. So, getting to know him outside of social media is my goal for now.

And I will admit seeing all those selfies did bring me back to thoughts of Tank. Tank had a hidden online dating account for over a year. Another flaw in him I was to ashamed to admit to. He never went on any dates because he never had time, he was either with me or me and his kids. But after I left him and I was looking back at our time together I remembered certain events and I’m positive he was talking to someone at various times. So I know I have a huge trigger with online anything.

And I got to thinking, Odin has been single for about two years. He’s been living the single guy life, doing single guy stuff. That FB page looks just like a dating profile. He created that page a year ago. If he’s been using it to advertise his single status then he’s not really doing anything creepy. He did say he wants to keep it separate from family and family friends. I’ve done much “worse” on my dating profiles. Re: literally advertising the importance of sex. His selfies and quotes were not sexual in the least.

He and I are not in a relationship but if we get there? That’s where trouble will come in but right now I don’t see him as that type, time will tell. And he knows my very opinionated stance on this topic. I’ll be the first to admit this may be a big risk but I see a lot of good in him. So, here I go.
Good for you, Not!

I think you are taking a good, objective approach.


nothing in life is guaranteed but sometimes we need to take a chance……. But that doesn’t mean just throwing caution to the wind. I think you are taking a calculated risk where you won’t be destroyed if it turns out that the FB thing is a big red flag. On the flip side, this could be a great thing for you if this turns out to just be a yellow flag.


eyes and ears open. You got this
 

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Good for you, Not!

I think you are taking a good, objective approach.


nothing in life is guaranteed but sometimes we need to take a chance……. But that doesn’t mean just throwing caution to the wind. I think you are taking a calculated risk where you won’t be destroyed if it turns out that the FB thing is a big red flag. On the flip side, this could be a great thing for you if this turns out to just be a yellow flag.


eyes and ears open. You got this
Yep, I know what I may be stepping into. Like literally, end up with a stinky mess on my shoe! 😂

But I’m going for it. If it doesn’t work out I’ll have some great sex in the meantime! 😁 Then I’ll tell him I was just using him all along. 😂😂😂😂
 

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The saga continues.

I’ve decided to give it yet another chance with Odin. I may shoot myself for it later but there are to many other good qualities I’m seeing in person. So, getting to know him outside of social media is my goal for now.

And I will admit seeing all those selfies did bring me back to thoughts of Tank. Tank had a hidden online dating account for over a year. Another flaw in him I was to ashamed to admit to. He never went on any dates because he never had time, he was either with me or me and his kids. But after I left him and I was looking back at our time together I remembered certain events and I’m positive he was talking to someone at various times. So I know I have a huge trigger with online anything.

And I got to thinking, Odin has been single for about two years. He’s been living the single guy life, doing single guy stuff. That FB page looks just like a dating profile. He created that page a year ago. If he’s been using it to advertise his single status then he’s not really doing anything creepy. He did say he wants to keep it separate from family and family friends. I’ve done much “worse” on my dating profiles. Re: literally advertising the importance of sex. His selfies and quotes were not sexual in the least.

He and I are not in a relationship but if we get there? That’s where trouble will come in but right now I don’t see him as that type, time will tell. And he knows my very opinionated stance on this topic. I’ll be the first to admit this may be a big risk but I see a lot of good in him. So, here I go.
I gave Pogo many chances so I know why you'd want to give Odin another go. No need to give you advice. Just wanted to say enjoy him for what he offers. 🙂
 

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I gave Pogo many chances so I know why you'd want to give Odin another go. No need to give you advice. Just wanted to say enjoy him for what he offers. 🙂
Yes, and @Not here in the singles thread, I feel like we should encourage each other in any decision. Because it doesn't matter if it goes well or it goes sideways, we got your back and will be on your side. So when you were done with him, we're gonna say yes be done with him! If you're going to give it another go, we are gonna say yes give it a go!

We are all adults here and we may make mistakes and we may regret them. But we deserve support from each other in our decisions, whether we regret them or not.
 

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I don't know what to say... floofy 😔

When I lost my cat I had someone with me to help me mourn. Hopefully you do too.
Losing your favorite cat is terrible, sorry to hear that!
Thanks you guys. I’m OK. I actually got her ashes back today. Sat her pretty little box in my bedroom where she spent most of her time. ❤
 

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I wanted to drop in one last time to let the fab Singles of TAM know that you've all helped me so much on my rollercoaster of singlehood. I have learned so much through our shared experiences, and feel the different perspectives were key.

I'm not sure what the future holds for me but good, bad, or ugly, it's going to come. The goal is to do so with kindness and joy, one day at a time.

Wishing you all the very best life has to offer. ❤❤
 

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I wanted to drop in one last time to let the fab Singles of TAM know that you've all helped me so much on my rollercoaster of singlehood. I have learned so much through our shared experiences, and feel the different perspectives were key.

I'm not sure what the future holds for me but good, bad, or ugly, it's going to come. The goal is to do so with kindness and joy, one day at a time.

Wishing you all the very best life has to offer. ❤❤
You leaving TAM, Lila?
 

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I had a funny interaction with the GFa couple weekends ago and I thought I'd share. It's kind of one of those glass half enpty / half full things.

Saturday morning I wake her up by curling up behind her and friskiness ensues. She goes back to sleep and I go downstairs for a snack and to let the dogs out, clean up the messes they made while we were...distracted, and whatnot. After a bit I make lunch and take it to her. She shows her appreciation. I wash the dishes, feed the dogs, read for a bit, and then cook supper while she takes a nap and lounges in bed reading. A repeat of lunch ensues.

Afterwards she said, "You know, it won't always be like this."

My response was along the lines of, "yeah, if we lived together we'd have to go to work and do chores and I doubt we could keep up this pace every day in any case..." and so on.

She then started talking about how she wouldn't be this lazy and wouldn't sleep so much and stuff like that.

It was just funny that we had the same thought but in opposite directions. She was thinking that it wouldn't stay so bad (IE things would get better) and I was thinking that it wouldn't stay so good.
 

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I had a funny interaction with the GFa couple weekends ago and I thought I'd share. It's kind of one of those glass half enpty / half full things.

Saturday morning I wake her up by curling up behind her and friskiness ensues. She goes back to sleep and I go downstairs for a snack and to let the dogs out, clean up the messes they made while we were...distracted, and whatnot. After a bit I make lunch and take it to her. She shows her appreciation. I wash the dishes, feed the dogs, read for a bit, and then cook supper while she takes a nap and lounges in bed reading. A repeat of lunch ensues.

Afterwards she said, "You know, it won't always be like this."

My response was along the lines of, "yeah, if we lived together we'd have to go to work and do chores and I doubt we could keep up this pace every day in any case..." and so on.

She then started talking about how she wouldn't be this lazy and wouldn't sleep so much and stuff like that.

It was just funny that we had the same thought but in opposite directions. She was thinking that it wouldn't stay so bad (IE things would get better) and I was thinking that it wouldn't stay so good.
I remember feeling like that at one point in my last relationship, before things went south. I was the one thinking it wouldn't stay so good, that real life would kick in and ruin the magic of all that time we were taking for each other, setting our responsibilities aside. You don't get much done during that time but having all that time to focus on one another is one of the best parts of the beginning. Living in a private little bubble together.
 
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