Agree. When I first saw all the selfies the words attention ***** came rushing to mind. So weird, because he comes off a tad bit shy in person.Do not listen to his words, his actions are showing you exactly who he is. You know "why", it's because for whatever reason he is an attention pig, which is just soooo unattractive.
Super sorry another one bites the dust!!!
Odin has been the opposite. He's been very respectful and polite. Not one single dumb picture via text. He did send a pic showing his haircut the other day. That's it. Online, he's a different person. It's dumbfounding.I had dated a guy where something similar was happening. Met him on bumble and right away there were a couple of very stupid selfies with equally stupid memes or words embedded across them. I could see this was something he had to spend some time on to edit those pics and was put off immediately, but the rest of his profile was pretty good and other pics were good. So I gave him a shot.
He was sweet, smart, very attractive to me. We chatted, had a date or two. The time together was very nice. But then the meme selfies started coming directly to me via text.
The ones he sent via text also got raunchy and strange.
I honestly couldn't understand why he thought any of them were cute, funny, sexy, smart or appropriate. He seemed so intelligent, but this was just sooooo dumb. Who in his life would have ever encouraged this, put a like on one, or made him think this was a good idea? All of them gave about a 7th grade level intelligence and humor vibe.
When I said I didn't want to see him anymore, I used the memes as one of the reasons, and he was honestly shocked and baffled about it. I tried to explain hey we barely know each other and you're blasting me with all of these meme selfies and it just comes across as arrogant or that you want me to praise you or something. None of that made sense to him either. So I finally just had to say I'm sorry you don't seem to understand it but it is what it is. He was decent about the whole thing and would occasionally text me over the next couple of months and ask for another chance and I wouldn't reply.
WHY?????? How can there be such a disconnect between an obviously intelligent person and them doing something so stupid??
You should get a fake stealth FB so you can spy on people and see what their accounts are like. That way you never end up dating someone who has a gross attention pig vibe and not know about it!
Just plain weird. So sorry sister.
The only reason he had a pic or two for his linked in or (professional) twitter was from pics others had taken for business directories and things like that.
Just plain weird. So sorry sister.
I also think selfies in general being sent to us might be a little yellow flag. Unless we ask for one, it seems like those who send selfies unsolicited (ie: new haircut) are going to have this tendency to be a bit attention-hoggy. In looking back at all the dates/guys over the past couple of years, the ones who sent selfies without being asked almost always ended up being a little to a lot self absorbed.
Whereas one of the best bf's I ever had - the one I most recently broke up with because he's moving again - literally didn't ever take a selfie in his life.
Right, just because they don't do selfies doesn't mean they are not insecure or self absorbed. There are many other red flags to watch out for and many indicators to various issues and problems. It's a whole red flag check list
I don't think so... he cut his hair the other day, apparently. Of course, it could have been much longer, but...
Right. I think I avoided failing to not misunderstand that.
It’s actually a name he uses for something he does every year at Christmas. He does have a gigantic beard.
Nooo, not even close.
My guess is he's into a Gen-z flavor of humor that involves meta irony, purposeful confusion re what's intentional or not etc. "Am I actually a narcissist? No, haha. But yes hahaha!" Wish I could explain it better, but that would be my guess if he seems intelligent and his reaction to your literal take on it was baffling to him. Personally I don't see the humor either.I had dated a guy where something similar was happening. Met him on bumble and right away there were a couple of very stupid selfies with equally stupid memes or words embedded across them. I could see this was something he had to spend some time on to edit those pics and was put off immediately, but the rest of his profile was pretty good and other pics were good. So I gave him a shot.
He was sweet, smart, very attractive to me. We chatted, had a date or two. The time together was very nice. But then the meme selfies started coming directly to me via text.
The ones he sent via text also got raunchy and strange.
I honestly couldn't understand why he thought any of them were cute, funny, sexy, smart or appropriate. He seemed so intelligent, but this was just sooooo dumb. Who in his life would have ever encouraged this, put a like on one, or made him think this was a good idea? All of them gave about a 7th grade level intelligence and humor vibe.
When I said I didn't want to see him anymore, I used the memes as one of the reasons, and he was honestly shocked and baffled about it. I tried to explain hey we barely know each other and you're blasting me with all of these meme selfies and it just comes across as arrogant or that you want me to praise you or something. None of that made sense to him either. So I finally just had to say I'm sorry you don't seem to understand it but it is what it is. He was decent about the whole thing and would occasionally text me over the next couple of months and ask for another chance and I wouldn't reply.
WHY?????? How can there be such a disconnect between an obviously intelligent person and them doing something so stupid??
