For years I suspected my husband cheated on me. But, he would never admit to it. In 2005 my husband & I opened up a home equity loan that I thought I was on "but wasn't" I asked him if I was on that loan and he said yes. Stupid me didn't check into it. Years later I found a check book with just his name on it only. Of course. he said he thought I was on the loan.I went to the bank and made sure my name was back on the loan. Over the years I really got depressed and was not dealing with my problem marriage. We went to marriage counseling. Then that stopped and back to daily life raising my youngest son at home. Then I started going back to counseling for myself to get mentally healthy so I can start dealing with the true problems with my marriage.When my husband started to see a change in me he wanted to get back into counseling with me. I said that at this time I still wanted to work on me first. I encourage him to seek counseling again, He did! Well, after 16 yrs he finally admitted to an affair he had when out of town with work. Now he wants to take a polygraph to show me that it only happen once and that he would do anything to make our marriage work. will continue