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My wife when in her late 40s started experiencing painful intercourse and lube did not help… She had 3 children in her 20s and had never had any painful intercourse up to this point…. I am average to small, but she acted almost as if my pen1s was too large, ????? Never had been a problem before, if anything the opposite.

She told me she went to the GYN and the DR. used a tool to stretch her. No problems since.Was she telling me the truth? Or did she have some other underlying problem she did not want to talk to me about? The DR. took care of the problem... I do know the pain was real and I also know it went away.

Does a vigina shrink during menopause? I cannot find anything on Google about a shrinking vigina. Have any of you ladies in this age bracket, had this done?... Any you Guys have a wife that had it done?... Or is she lying and it was something else. If so what?........ I am ignorant about this, that’s why I am asking.
 

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I'm not a woman or an MD but here's what I know.

Painful intercourse can be a LOT of issues, but shrinking isn't one of them. The vajayjay doesn't start to shrivel up and then needs to be stretched out again, as much as some men wished for that LOL.

There was definitely another issue and the more commone of them could be STD's, yeast infections, menopause (causing dryness which lube should've dealt with) and then more less common issues.

But shrinking isn't one of them sorry.

This is coming from a non md who has the y human.
 

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Atrophy of the vaginal muscles can cause "shrinkage " however a possibility is bauher's cysts ... i think that is the name of them. It is an infection of the vaginal glands near the perinium that causes subacious (fluid filled) cysts. Very painful, i know first hand. Doc can drain them in office.
 

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Yes, to answer your basic question, there are "vaginal dilators" which are used to help well, "stretch" the area. Some are medical in nature - like what the doctor used, and sometimes they are prescribed for use at home.

This problem can occur because of menopause, from the muscles atrophying from lack of use, after surgery, from chemo, etc, etc. So, yes, this is a real medical thing. However, if you look up pictures of them, and thinking about needing to have a doctor do that, I'm sure you might understand why your wife didn't neccessarily want to discuss this in great detail. It's probably kind of embarrassing.

Generally, this procedure goes hand in hand with some kind of hormone therapy, to stop it from becoming a recurring problem - so, if she hasn't, she might want to talk about that as well. (Or think about a natural alternative like - Estroven or whatnot.)
 

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Enjoli.....funny, but my thoughts too...... Since we were having intercourse 1-2 times a week how did the VeVay shrink and cause pain
 

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mel - there are a lot of ideas here including my first thought, yeast infection although the cyst is very likely since it was all of a sudden "fixed".

She had an issue that is very intimate and maybe thinks it will gross you out if you knew. She took care of it. Now I'm a TMI person and would openly share but she may feel embarrassed and not want to so if I were you I'd just leave it be.
 

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Atrophy of the vaginal muscles can cause "shrinkage " however a possibility is bauher's cysts ... i think that is the name of them. It is an infection of the vaginal glands near the perinium that causes subacious (fluid filled) cysts. Very painful, i know first hand. Doc can drain them in office.
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I would have thought some kind of pelvic inflammatory disease...
but there really is a true medical condition as "Vaginismus".

From my understanding, it would be more than one "treatment" of a dialator... which infact, doesn't really stretch the vagina, but actually is to control the tightening of the pelvic floor muscle.
 

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How old is this woman with the shrinking vvvvvvvv???? Perhaps it hasn't shrunk at all. As women age and go through the stages of menopause, they can lose natural lubrication that makes intercourse very painful. Fortunately, I won't have that problem, as you need to be having intercourse to actually experience any pain.
 

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She was about 48 at the time. That was about 5 years ago. I never questioned what she said at the time, However I have caught her in several lies and am starting to wonder ,if she lied about that.

I also found out that she had "crabs" a few years ago and didn't tell me, until recently (kinda slipped out)she said she probably got them off a toilet seat or trying on clothing at a clothing store.

cant believe she would cheat on me, but I am now having depression/Anxiety, and starting to wonder if she did.

Any evidence would be long gone by now.I don't want to accuse her if she is innocent, and cant prove it if she did.When you get depressed it hard to keep your mind from having reoccurring, unreasonable thoughts.... But then again whats reasonable?
 

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She was about 48 at the time. That was about 5 years ago. I never questioned what she said at the time, However I have caught her in several lies and am starting to wonder ,if she lied about that.

I also found out that she had "crabs" a few years ago and didn't tell me, until recently (kinda slipped out)she said she probably got them off a toilet seat or trying on clothing at a clothing store.

cant believe she would cheat on me, but I am now having depression/Anxiety, and starting to wonder if she did.

Any evidence would be long gone by now.I don't want to accuse her if she is innocent, and cant prove it if she did.When you get depressed it hard to keep your mind from having reoccurring, unreasonable thoughts.... But then again whats reasonable?
WAIT! Youre asking us about something that happened 5 years ago?!?!?
 

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yes but its NEWS to me,........ I thought about asking her to get me the DR records to clear my mind.But that my be an unwise request.At the time she said she had a rash, but lied , it was crabs.

I was also thinking the VeVay was not shrinking but inflamed with some kind of std..... I am ignorant on this topic
 

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There's only so much people can tell you.

1 - Yes, there are medical problems that can cause "shrinkage."

2 - Yes, there are practices for doctors to help with this.

However, what exactly is going to set your mind at ease? Finding out if the shrinkage was cased by an STD? That isn't going to clear up the whole issue that your wife had - CRABS-. The "I got it from a toilet seat" is the oldest, and lamest attempt at a cover up, since I think - the toilet was invented.

I don't want to bring this party down, but - I'm sure its pretty certain your wife cheated on you. However, as you point out, any evidence is likely gone, and - she's apparently decided to lie about it. You can't request your wife's medical records without her permission. And - given my assumptions, I really doubt she'll request them for you.

So, with the new revealed knowledge, the question is about what to do with it. What else has your wife lied about?
 

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yes but its NEWS to me,........ I thought about asking her to get me the DR records to clear my mind.But that my be an unwise request.At the time she said she had a rash, but lied , it was crabs.

I was also thinking the VeVay was not shrinking but inflamed with some kind of std..... I am ignorant on this topic
crabs ....she was cheating on you?
 

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She was about 48 at the time. That was about 5 years ago. I never questioned what she said at the time, However I have caught her in several lies and am starting to wonder ,if she lied about that.

I also found out that she had "crabs" a few years ago and didn't tell me, until recently (kinda slipped out)she said she probably got them off a toilet seat or trying on clothing at a clothing store.

cant believe she would cheat on me, but I am now having depression/Anxiety, and starting to wonder if she did.

Any evidence would be long gone by now.I don't want to accuse her if she is innocent, and cant prove it if she did.When you get depressed it hard to keep your mind from having reoccurring, unreasonable thoughts.... But then again whats reasonable?
Dude........just dude.......

Your wife told you she got crabs and you let her off the hook? What kind of snoopage are you doing here? A woman like that has probably been gaming you for years.

Take the blinders off. Check her phone/texts/emails/FB messages. Get a keylogger and VAR. And be prepared for the shock of your life.

I'm not saying it's not possible to get crabs from a toilet seat, because it is. But it is not common...at all. Especially if she's been lying about other stuff, and hiding this painful sex thing from you would be really suspicious after that.
 
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